I used to be very strong in appearance and not cry in public, whereas now I utterly don't give a shit, if I feel like crying I'm not gonna bottle up my feelings for the sake of not letting strangers see water on my face. And I don't care what they think or say. But one of my friends used to cry for "minor" things, and people were such bitches! You can SEE she's sad, why go ahead and make her sadder? If you have a friend like that, hugs, chocolate and letting them know these people are huge dicks help. And have a word alone with the dicks later (a real, decent convo about why you'd rather have them not make fun of a crying person. It's fucking surreal, but it helps.)
When I was a kid everything would send me from 1 to 10 000 in a heartbeat, no in between. Nowadays its more of 1 to 50-70 with random things, 1-30 with people (and I rarely get mad at people nowadays, at least not to their face)
I understand the gist of this post, but has anyone of those folks dealt with 3 teenage girls trying to get ready at the sametime ? Buz Lightyear had a saying that would fit those numbers. Anyone who messes with a person already in distress for no other reason than to bully them needs a swift kick in their ass to rattle their brain.
best way to handle upset people screaming/crying over unreasonable stuff is to let them know you understand they are very very upset. next step is to ask how can you help or to encourage them to tell you what precisely is upsetting them.
never tell anyone going through a hysterical fit to "calm down".
Bullshit. This is a thinly veiled way to justify having no control over one's emotions. You can always control your behavior in the face of stress. If you flip out about minor shit, it's YOUR fault. Other people are perfectly justified in pointing out to you that your behavior is unacceptable. Thats not an appropriate way to deal with adversity.
No human being has complete control, even outwardly of their emotions. The toughest and most highly trained humans tasked with the most critical task on earth will break. Everyone breaks. If you’ve never found that point yet you simply haven’t had the right stress applied to the right point yet, or were already broken and don’t realize it. Wether it’s mental stress, physical stress, sleep deprivation etc. astronauts and Navy Seals will lapse too. If every little thing sets you off you probably have self control issues, and some are more sensitive to stress than others- but EVERYBODY can lose control.
I worked closely with a Seal Team on more than one occasion . How can you say this Guest , how ? I HATE YOU , I HATE YOU , I HATE YOU, (lots of foot stompiming). Haha. For the guest guest, I really don't think this post is referring to childish temper tantrums but more to emotional breakdowns.
Lol. Sorry popsy. No disrespect to the teams. I’ve had the privilege and sometimes frustration or mild terror to appreciate the caliber of steel that forging process can produce. I’ve also worked with a few guys after the teams who demonstrate that as super human as our most elite men and women can be- they are still human and as valiant as the VA can be- we need to remember that those shoulders shouldn’t have to hold up the world alone, and they need support too like anyone else.
The old say holds true " what doesn't bend, breaks". The VA has been getting a lot of static the last few months for the increase in suicides (Atlanta VA had some, 3 , I think but am not positive, right on their grounds, and lobby). They seemed to me to be getting better at letting vets know that it's ok to ask for help.
Oh yeah. They’re great people by and large, it’s more than anything a lack of resources. Vets aren’t given or made aware of resources, the VA isn’t given the resources it needs, and when serving and when discharged from active duty there isn’t a real strong program in place to help readjust and to lay down the foundations to reaching out and develop the ways to bridge civilian and military existence. College culture of self reliance is a good one- but itself can hinder seeking help or admitting difficulties or traumas. So there are some places to improve all around and I’m not pointing fingers. Just want to see people who give so much taken care of.
never tell anyone going through a hysterical fit to "calm down".