An argument can be valid but completely irrelevant. Anyone who would dismiss the previous statement proves my point. The fact that you THINK you have a valid argument, the fact you might actually- doesn’t change the fact that a parent child relationship is one of superior/subordinate authority: until the parent either views the child as equal, or the child is able to exert themselves as equal and function independent of the parents care and guidance.
The respect between parent and child is strongly based on roles- a parent doesn’t treat a child as a coparent nor does a child treat a parent as another child. A parent is a teacher and a guardian. They should explain things to a child and discuss things with that child, why a decision was made etc. HOWEVER- the position of authority is one of trust and leadership. When a leader cannot or will not for reasons of time, privilege, etc. divulge information to a subordinate- if the subordinate trusts and respects the superior they will comply with the instructions given.
To do otherwise is to say you trust yourself more than you trust them. Now- parents and kids often keep things from each other. One knows things the other does not. The issue of blind trust is wether or not you believe the other person is asking you to do something that seems off because they know something you don’t that applies to the situation.
Even if you remove all this- you are a guest to a host. Your parent feeds, clothes, shelters etc. you. In return you are asked for compliance to their rules and wishes within reason. The simple fact that the person who gave you life and likely everything you have in the world and support wishes it is a pretty compelling argument that one should, put if respect for those things, comply.
Now- once one becomes a young adult this get murky. The fundamental processes of an adult brain are in place as early as 12. While context and experience may or may not be lacking, you’re a naive adult in a tiny body with little autonomy and legal rights. Compounding this- in short order the world will begin to expect adult things of you and apply adult consequences to you. You can’t treat a person as a drone for 17 years and then expect them to wake up after midnight in a single day as a functional adult.
That means teens HAVE to push boundaries. They HAVE to argue and rebel in general if those around them (like parents) seek to rob them of autonomy. The parent child relationship is dynamic. To see you as on somewhat equal terms a parent must see you take on responsibility, they must trust your judgment and ability to get results. So it’s almost inevitable there will be some conflict as you transition to a self realized independent person. It’s the awkward stage memes so love to discuss. Faulting is hard, lack of instructions on being an adult, realizing that being an adult isn’t what you thought, and so on.
Tl:dr- is it disrespectful for you to argue with your parents? No. But also yes. It depends. As you mature they have to realize you’ll be relying on your own judgment in life. As you demonstrate responsibility they should show you increasing amount of respect and trust. But ultimately up until you are an independent adult, there are times they will just know more, and even if you THINK it makes no sense they just aren’t interested in arguing- things are the way they are and they just need you to go along. That said- even when one argues there are times and ways to be respectful or not.
My friend's parent (let call her Miss H): stop sitting on the floor! Ain't you cold!?
Friend: no I am not, it's not cold.
Miss H: wrong! You ARE cold! Get on the sofa right now!
Friend: just bc you're cold doesn't mean I have to feel cold too.
Miss H: are you disrespecting me! You're looking down on me rn!
Friend: no I am not, it's not cold.
Miss H: wrong! You ARE cold! Get on the sofa right now!
Friend: just bc you're cold doesn't mean I have to feel cold too.
Miss H: are you disrespecting me! You're looking down on me rn!