There are a certain few things I could have done with out, such as being grabbed by the foot and flung across the room while being accused of stealing a watch I didn't even know existed... but overall, I earned the strikes I received and found them fair punishment.
edit: I knew it existed, my bad, I just didn't know who's it was or where it went.
I disagree with the idea that physical punishment is idea for consequencing anyone. The important thing about consequencing a child is that you are consistent, and the child doesn't want the consequence.
And its possible to become a good person even with bad parenting. My family was emotionally abusive. I can remember being screamed at for accidents and being laughed at for crying. I can remember sitting against by bedroom door so it couldn't be opened and crying as silently as possible.
I easily could have become the sort of person who burrys their own emotions and expects others to do the same. Rigid and unsympathetic. But I committed myself to breaking the cycle. To being better than those before me. Today I was told "You're (my daughter's) best." By a parent who was grateful to how helpful I have been to her disabled daughter. And "best" in this case is undeniably "kind, patient, and understanding ".
Not that I don't have flaws, I do. I'm just not better for being abused.
True, but I think it's too easy for physical discipline to be inconsistent out of emotion. Even if you aren't being abusive, smaking your kid harder than usual for the same action because you had a hard day at work is still unfair to the kid. It's also less effective in teaching the child good behavior when consequences are inconsistent.
And, you can definitely see parents giving harsher penalties when more stressed anyway, but it's a lot easier to counter when your consequences are varied in more easily quantifiable ways.
I don't think physical punishment is nessicary bad, just not the most ideal.
My mom spanked me relentlessly. All it did was teach me how to hide my behavior and be afraid to actually go to her with legitimate concerns for fear of being beaten. Hitting your child is the easy way out.
And what's the line? There are numerous studies that say physical punishment is no more effective than any other type of discipline and often more detrimental to the emotional and psychological well being of the child.
With my father it was; we have a family council, we go through the process of discussing why what you did was wrong, and then you accept your punishment. The physical punishment was swifter and wouldn't hurt as long, but it would be more intense (think plywood with holes so it swings faster and creates that little boom sting). With my stepdad it was just rage... see the watch incident i mention above. With my dad usually the options against getting whacked were weeks of chores; not even grounding, just such a pile of chores you might as well have been grounded.
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I'd be way worse than I'm now.
edit: I knew it existed, my bad, I just didn't know who's it was or where it went.
And its possible to become a good person even with bad parenting. My family was emotionally abusive. I can remember being screamed at for accidents and being laughed at for crying. I can remember sitting against by bedroom door so it couldn't be opened and crying as silently as possible.
I easily could have become the sort of person who burrys their own emotions and expects others to do the same. Rigid and unsympathetic. But I committed myself to breaking the cycle. To being better than those before me. Today I was told "You're (my daughter's) best." By a parent who was grateful to how helpful I have been to her disabled daughter. And "best" in this case is undeniably "kind, patient, and understanding ".
Not that I don't have flaws, I do. I'm just not better for being abused.
And, you can definitely see parents giving harsher penalties when more stressed anyway, but it's a lot easier to counter when your consequences are varied in more easily quantifiable ways.
I don't think physical punishment is nessicary bad, just not the most ideal.
Then I was warned.
Whatever happens next is on me.