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· 4 years ago
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If he’s living with his wife- he probably is at least partial owner of the house, and there are good odds he has lived alone and didn’t go straight from his parents home to his marital home. But either way he has some degree of freedom. It is of course more complex- there are many psychological factors which can make dating a married person exciting or gratifying. I do not on the whole approve of cheating... but not all married people going outside the marriage are cheating.
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guest_
· 4 years ago
To he clear- as kcat says- living with your parents doesn’t make you a loser- it can be cultural, it can be a choice, your family may need you, it might be just part of your journey to where you want to go. So I am not saying there’s anything wrong with people living at home- I’m just saying that there are certainly things that are psychologically attractive about married partners to many people- they at the least have a proven stability and ability to take care of themselves and another up to a certain standard. But there are other psychological reasons for it as well.
kcat
· 4 years ago
Tbh if the guy had been living with his parents and had a job I’d think that he’d actually have saved a bit of money and would actually know how to live with other adults and would’ve maintained a loving relationship with his parents
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guest_
· 4 years ago
I’m with you on that. Personally I’ve never found reason to hate on people for living at home. It’s often smart- and as you say- can be a sign of a person who sees family as important. I grew up in a place where the culture was very much one where children and parents and grandparents and often extended families lived together. It was especially common for unmarried children to live at home even after their 20’s- and often after marriage the husband would move in to the wives home.
guest_
· 4 years ago
There are many people to split goose work and pay bills. If you have children there are many people to help raise kids- people you generally trust more than strangers and who likely share your values etc so that you are happy your kids can learn from them- and multiple families meant that there may be cousins and such around close ages to play with each other.
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kcat
· 4 years ago
Yeah we have the same dynamic where I come from as well. That being said I do believe that once you’re married it’s crucial to get your own place cause that’s just so unlikely to work for anyone involved ahah but still up until that point I think the support system and close bonds works
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guest_
· 4 years ago
Lol. Yeah. Personally and for myself, I would prefer not to live with others when married or even in a serious relationship.
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kcat
· 4 years ago
I don’t see the issue of guys living with their parents, I don’t see the guy as some loser
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