Jordan's just saying it like it is
4 years ago by fyukkk · 310 Likes · 11 comments · Trending
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· 4 years ago
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Most adults do not understand sexuality. Why do you think so many “conservative” politicians end up getting busted in random trysts with men? Pornography is a complex subject- there is both potentially exploitation and empowerment in the industry and the consumption of pornography.
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guest_
· 4 years ago
But here’s some free parenting advice. Take it or leave it for what it is worth. As a parent, you cannot control what your child sees or even what they do. If you lock a drug addict in a room for a month you don’t get a non addict when the lock comes off- you get an addict who’s past withdrawal and that first hit is going to feel SOOOO good. Because the psychological factors behind the behavior aren’t addressed just because you’ve limited access.
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guest_
· 4 years ago
If you stop your child from every mistake and harm- they’ll never learn it- all they’ll have is your word. That’s a dangerous thing because wether it is santa clause or a lecture on the evils of drugs or telling them that they’ll never get a job if they don’t do XYZ- you’ll lie to them. On purpose or accident. They will reach an age where your word is no longer the gospel. Where your judgment is suspect and they trust theirs or their friends more.
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guest_
· 4 years ago
So you cannot control your child, their environment, what they see and what their friends teach them. Even if you can come close- they’ll eventually be on their own unless they die before you. And if you control their world- without you they’ll be even more lost. So guide them. Don’t be a friend and don’t be a dictator. Be a guide. Teach them.
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guest_
· 4 years ago
They will see and hear things, controversial things, sexual things, vulgar and racist and in appropriate things. Talk to your kids. Contextualize it for them. Challenge them to grow. Engage their mind. Make them think. Make them see other sides of issues they may not have.
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guest_
· 4 years ago
Talk to them about sex and pornography. Be honest. If you lie- they’ll find out and your word won’t mean shit. Tell them sex generally feels good. It’s not some bullshit where “it can feel really good when you really love..” No. it feels good when you’re horny, or with anyone who really knows what they are doing. Their first good hookup will prove you a damn liar.
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guest_
· 4 years ago
But it can be dangerous. It can lead to diseases, pregnancy, etc. talk to them about consent. Talk to them about the social implications of sex- that men and women may “use you” or have sex for other reasons. That it can change relationships- even with people other than your partner. That you can be shamed or gossiped about, that some people will lie or try to use sex as a trap or in other ways to get ahead.
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guest_
· 4 years ago
Talk to them about pornography, about how it can be healthy or not. About exploring their bodies and getting to know themselves before they jump in with a partner. Talk to them about pleasing a partner- about how sex can be about their gratification but is also about more than just them.
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guest_
· 4 years ago
Answer their questions so that they don’t have to learn (usually “wrong”) lessons on how sex with a partner is from pornography. Tell them it is ok to be curious and ok to explore but to be smart and to honor themselves. Tell them sex isn’t something to be ashamed of but that you do need to think.
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guest_
· 4 years ago
Be there for them and don’t penalize them for being honest. Help them discover who they are- and guide them to be the best version of them.
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ernster
· 4 years ago
Porn is very addictive to young hormone addled teens.. just help them understand their choices and try guide to their best life
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