As far as who is winning- that all depends on what a person wants right? Like if your goal is to be the best at gaming and you don’t want a family... then they’d still be winning right? In fact- some people have regular salary jobs where they get paid to game. What’s more- they may get paid to game, AND have a spouse and or kids.
But here’s the real kicker-picture an Olympic athlete or a scientist at the top of their field. Those people would likely spend a lot of time practicing and training to be good right? But like.... if Micheal Phelps beat you in a swimming race you wouldn’t turn around and say: “yeah... but at least I have a job and a family.”
So I mean... life is full of competition- but living isn’t a competition. If you’re happy then you’re happy. There isn’t a score board. So even if it wasn’t intentional to diminish others by saying this- one thing has nothing to do with the other. There are people out there who manage careers, families, competing in sports, and having leisure time as well as other responsibilities. It’s a sign of low self worth when you have to justify being beaten. They were better at that thing.
You can try to chalk it up to having “better priorities” but- that doesn’t explain how someone can be great at something- or seemingly everything- and still manage a family and career does it? Not everyone is going to be that person- but most of the time when you try to say you have “better priorities” the truth is either the other person just has an easier times with things that are hard for you- so they can do better with less time and effort; or you have bad time management, or you’re just lazier.
There’s nothing wrong with that. Not everyone prioritizes achieving their maximum potential for performance in all they do. Being “the best” isn’t really needed for being happy. And that’s my main point. “Winning” in life is largely about how happy you are and the happiness you bring others. We don’t need to compare our lives to other people’s. If you’re happy with your job and your family and sucking at video games- be happy. Let someone else be happy for being good at games without dragging other stuff in to it.
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