We may be quick to vilify the mother here- and long term she probably isn’t acting in the child’s best interest- but the SYSTEM needs to be vilified there- for people who rely on assistance to get by, taking steps that can ultimately help them become self sufficient or even financially successful are often met with near uneducated loss of benefits they rely on. I think what’s really sad there isn’t that a mother would ask that her child not be helped to keep getting a check- but that a mother is being forced to choose between helping her child grow their abilities or taking care of the day to day needs of their child and family.
The sad thing is, sometimes “helping” can hurt- consider that if you give a family of 6 a new car which they can use for the family- not they must pay registration, insurance, maintenance, and possibly taxes on the value of the vehicle. A nice new vehicle will be more reliable but it will also likely require a more regimented maintenance schedule- older vehicles were less precise and so they would still run or pass smog even if operating out of spec by a good margin, newer vehicles generally will not. Programs that go to other countries and build homes and schools and such- it was found that often these harm the local economy- put people who build or maintain out of business entirely, and harm in other ways. We don’t always see the ways a good deed can cause problems.
If you have a child with developmental issues, who is highly unlikely to be able to hold a decent job or any job with any stability- helping them do better is good for developments sake and makes us feel good- but if it costs them their sole source of income and doesn’t do enough good to replace it- one could see where this is a problem. Such a mother likely doesn’t have access to resources to get a child, even a child who COULD manage their issues with the right training and help. She also may not have the resources and education herself to assist or even sustain such a process. Outside relying upon luck to grace her with the random charity of others- she may not have a lot of options.
These sorts of issues can be quite complex and can follow generational deficiencies in education, finances, and opportunity. Such cases tend to be highly specialized and circumstantial which is why having an adequate supply of qualified case workers and other resources to support individual level engagement and giving broad discretion in how to handle each case is important as is modifying our system to instill self sufficiency through closing knowledge gaps and providing opportunity without penalizing those who try and fail.
People downvote guest_ because they don't want to read 4 paragraphs on every post. I personally don't downvote him, but i don't blame the people who do. Sorry for the hot take.
Also- no worries on the hot take. My advice to those who don’t want to read paragraphs would be to not read them. I don’t want to see a whole bunch of things people post- but that’s freedom of speech for you. Largely the people who I’d say likely would need to read and understand this stuff are unlikely to do so regardless, there’s a casual link between the ability and desire to read and learn, and narrow mindedness I find; but were they shorter, I’d think the sorts of people who wouldn’t have much constructive to ad might be more prone to reply, and I have had some good conversations over the years with those willing to read and write. Memes are image based, comments are text based. If one has aversion to words, comments might not be for them- and twitter may be a better platform for their wants.
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