We with the amazing parents can have down sides as well.
I had amazing loving parents they loved us made sure we was happy and loved. They were hard workers and loved each other.
When they died I developed PTSD from the loss. I didn’t even know you can get PTSD from losing loved ones.
My husband both his parents are dicks. They both married and divorced many times his mom is on her 3rd marriage and his dad is on his 4th marriage. And they way they argue it won’t last.
Both put themselves and their “new spouse” above their own kids. My husband didn’t even know he had 2 brothers till he was a teenager. One from his moms first marriage the other from his dads second.
I know and he agrees he will be so relived when they die. He says I can’t what to finally exhale and be at peace.
So you see he is going to be relieved they are gone where as I who used to have stress roll off me like water on a ducks back due to losing my parents is in hell. I even need an emotional support animal.
Thing is, the worst thing you’ve ever experienced is the worst thing you’ve ever experienced.
Combine that with the reality that chemistry can force you to feel pain you think you have no reason to feel and suddenly, you have this pain that brings guilt.
Bottom line, whatever you feel, you have a valid reason to feel it. You may have wonderful parents who do all the “right” things and somehow everything is still wrong. There’s no comparison. You feel what you feel and it is valid.
I had amazing loving parents they loved us made sure we was happy and loved. They were hard workers and loved each other.
When they died I developed PTSD from the loss. I didn’t even know you can get PTSD from losing loved ones.
My husband both his parents are dicks. They both married and divorced many times his mom is on her 3rd marriage and his dad is on his 4th marriage. And they way they argue it won’t last.
Both put themselves and their “new spouse” above their own kids. My husband didn’t even know he had 2 brothers till he was a teenager. One from his moms first marriage the other from his dads second.
I know and he agrees he will be so relived when they die. He says I can’t what to finally exhale and be at peace.
So you see he is going to be relieved they are gone where as I who used to have stress roll off me like water on a ducks back due to losing my parents is in hell. I even need an emotional support animal.
Combine that with the reality that chemistry can force you to feel pain you think you have no reason to feel and suddenly, you have this pain that brings guilt.
Bottom line, whatever you feel, you have a valid reason to feel it. You may have wonderful parents who do all the “right” things and somehow everything is still wrong. There’s no comparison. You feel what you feel and it is valid.