Debatable. We don’t know the circumstances. Like if she were going home first or running an errand which she would have done either way. It’s also possible that she may have decided to go to the bar, or somewhere else taking the same part of the route at the same time. There are countless interactions and persons who’s actions or inactions led up to the event of her death both over time and even that day. Personally, I’d say sometimes people die and it just isn’t anyone’s fault. From our perspective it’s a roll of the dice. And had things gone differently- she still could have died some other way or even in a different accident that wouldn’t have happened in the timeline that occurred. It’s all a crapshoot.
They were supposed to meet at a bar. It’s entirely possible that she may have gone to meet fiends there, or seeing that she is obviously looking for a night out and possibly romance- she may have decided to go to that bar alone to see how the evening would turn out. The original poster states the accident “happened on the way to our date” but that’s subjective- how does he know she was specifically heading to their date and not, for example as said before, running an errand on the way to the date? Likewise- where does she live? If she passes the bar on her way home-
1. She would likely then have been on that route regardless as the route to the bar from work is the same as the route home from work. So in that case, or any case where she took the same route for any reason- she still would likely have been in the same place at the same time.
2. Here’s the kicker- she never went on the date right- she died. So, we don’t actually KNOW that she wasn’t going to stand him up.
Since we do not know what OP based the statement “she was on her way to our date” on- we can’t really say. Is he basing it on the fact the accident happened at a place where one might assume the coworker was heading to the date due to its relation to work or the bar? Was she found all dressed up? Were there texts from friends and family? Or is op just assuming that the coworker died on the way to their date because it happened the same evening?
But even if we take for granted that she certifiably was in transit with the sole purpose of meeting him, on a route she otherwise would not be at a time she would not be there to be in the accident- we can’t say how the day would have gone otherwise. This would be easier with a presentation- but here’s an example:
If he didn’t ask her out, let’s say he just stays home- who is to say that he doesn’t leave work later than usual since he has nowhere to be after? He’s driving home now 30 minutes or whatever later than he is in our scenario A. A second car behind him is upset he’s driving slowly, so it whips on to a side street to pass him and get back on the main road. While doing so it zooms through a light as coworker is crossing the intersection on the way to visit a friend since coworker didn’t do anything else- accident happens, coworker dies.
That’s a very specific example, but we could cook up a million and make very complex ones taking into account chain of events concerning multiple people and changes to their plans, attitudes, and subsequent interactions, and we can draw them all back to a place where we can either say that she makes it home safely, or plausibly dies no matter what.
Since we also do not know who is at fault for the accident or the cause- for example was she driving drunk? Is she just a generally reckless driver? So the accident may not be tied to a specific place or moment as much as it is tied to her driving. If such is habitual- then we could even say it was going to happen eventually regardless- such as if she regularly “pre fades” eg: drinks or does drugs to relive anxiety etc. before a date or outing, statistically her mortality behind the wheel eventually occurs given enough time and risk factors. We just do t have All the details.
Maybe... lesson here is get information before making conclusions. You can assume whatever you like but the possibility for an alternate explanation exists, and it is wise to explore that before making rash statements or decisions.
2. Here’s the kicker- she never went on the date right- she died. So, we don’t actually KNOW that she wasn’t going to stand him up.