It isn’t always toxic. Some people just don’t care- or have learned to process their emotions instead of be led by their emotions. I’m guilty of “not caring” a lot. My SO gets upset at me for it. But I’m still winning. I by and large do what I want when I want. I get what I want and I live the life I want, and there aren’t a lot of people in a position to take that from me. If you can’t take it from me, and aren’t taking it from someone else- why do I care? “He cut in line” “he’s talking smack” blah blah.
Look man, he needs to. That’s the measure of his power. That’s all he’s got. That tells me he isn’t worth my time. And at the end of the day- things are or they aren’t. You can wrap yourself up over anything, will you get fired? What if your partner is cheating? Is global warming going to kill us all, blah blah. But it’s yes or no. So ask yourself: “have I done everything I can or will do to prevent or prepare?””is this something I have the ability to change?” There you go. Life is a raging river. You can stand against the unfathomable weight and current for as long as possible and let the water beat you up, MAYBE hold your ground or gain a few feet- or you can go with the current and do your best to steer away from rocks.
You’re in the river. The only way out is death. So if you say: “if I go with the current I might drown!” I’d say: “you’re chin deep in water. You might drown here too- and regardless you’ll go under eventually.” You say: “but what if the current takes me somewhere I don’t like?” And I say: “then keep going down stream until you are satisfied or can’t go anymore. Anyway, standing there struggling against the current isn’t so pleasant is it?”
Be efficient
And always have a plan to kill everyone you meet