Honestly, so much yes.
Sorry if this is TMI or rambly but having been raised by a parent with narcissistic tendencies (not full blown NPD – just caught some "fleas" from grandmother who is a full blown narcissistic manipulator), growing up I felt like I was living in two completely distinct realities – at home I was a total piece of shit incapable of even basic tasks (that's what I was told whenever I made a simple mistake or got a B at school) and everywhere else I was a gifted, clever kid that just sometimes messes up, like literally everyone else does. When I finally burnt out from the pressure, I went to a therapist and found out that I'm not a total piece of shit for not always being perfect, and that motivation should come from within, not from outside pressure, because you will burn out that way.
So yeah, therapy is fucking awesome.
Sounds like your therapist is giving you some ridiculousness. A good therapist will find a way to break it to you truthfully while also not breaking your confidence. The truth is we are all broken in unique ways but the truth can be brought to our attention in a loving manner. It would appear you havent heard this in a long time but even though you're broken, you're still loved. I love you, sincerely another broken person. (Yes, it probably sounds weird hearing i love you from a complete stranger but the truth is we all need love.)
Thank you! She's great actually, helping me deprogram myself from all that crap while also not being enabler-y about things I do need to work on. We're all broken in different ways but we deserve love, right? <3
My wife and I are going to see a therapist and were finally making breakthroughs. I'm glad that you are seeking help outside of "make yourself great" books. We all deserve love, I agree 100%.
Sorry if this is TMI or rambly but having been raised by a parent with narcissistic tendencies (not full blown NPD – just caught some "fleas" from grandmother who is a full blown narcissistic manipulator), growing up I felt like I was living in two completely distinct realities – at home I was a total piece of shit incapable of even basic tasks (that's what I was told whenever I made a simple mistake or got a B at school) and everywhere else I was a gifted, clever kid that just sometimes messes up, like literally everyone else does. When I finally burnt out from the pressure, I went to a therapist and found out that I'm not a total piece of shit for not always being perfect, and that motivation should come from within, not from outside pressure, because you will burn out that way.
So yeah, therapy is fucking awesome.