Get yourself one

I would agree there. Almost every single person I’ve known with a partner best described as “Doesn’t mind hurting other peoples feelings over you..” has either turned into a disaster for them, centered around those and the generally related personality traits that come with it, or both people were, at least in my own and many others opinions- either of them not too great as people. There is of course also the passive vs. active “hurt others feelings..” like- we probably picture that meaning they’ll stand up for you etc- but it can also mean hurting others feelings by over prioritizing you and the relationship at the expense of their own life and friends, cancelling plans with their friends or family etc. So maybe “consider your feelings first” might be how I’d phrase it. I mean, optimally in my mind, a great partner is true to their feelings while being considerate of yours, and if they are compatible to you, theirs and your feelings will often align or be able to be mutually cared for

Ultimately hardly anyone if any human can live without hurt ing others feelings now and then, but again, perhaps different perspectives, personally I’d say a partner with the elegance, emotional maturity, and tact to generally avoid or mitigating hurting peoples feelings while still being able to achieve their own or you mutual goals is better than a partner who is essentially a “bull in a China shop” and doesn’t “mind” of some things get roughed up if it ends in what they want. That doesn’t seem like the best or most stable character trait in general. I’d prefer a partner who even when they know they must do something unbecoming, is mindful as opposed to one that doesn’t mind what means lead to an ends. To each their own I suppose. And of course- those who aren’t happily able to chose and fight their own battles may not benefit from, need, or appreciate a partner whom is as such as this states.