Stop babysitting grown ass people

My grandfather is a casual racist. He "permits" black and brown people to exist around him. He only uses racial slurs about the different races in regard to criminals of said race. He is leaps and bounds ahead of his father and grandfather who very much hated anyone other than whites. My father is a screaming racist and will often go on rants about racial issues in the US and about race mixing. My grandfather's approach to the subject left me leeway in growing up to interact with kids of other races as if my father had any say it wouldve only been white kids. Growing up in a town with 50% Hispanic population and being able to interact and learn from the opened my eyes to the fact that these weren't "mutts" or "mongrels" but people just like me who are just trying to live their lives. I learned a lot from my Hispanic friends growing up and it made me realize the racial rhetoric as well as sexist rhetoric comes almost entirely from education or lack thereof.

To tie this in better to the post I will lay out an example. In a family unit with parents and several children the interactions between parents will influence a child's view on relationships throughout their development. A father he sees the mother as nothing more than a fuck toy will leave that impression on their children. For the boys it will make women out to be nothing more than things to play with and not take seriously while for the girls it will teach them they are nothing more than a piece of meat. A mother who does nothing but berate and belittle a father for trying to have emotional connections with their children will instill the idea in daughters that men are meant to be cold and that they should be in charge of the emotional state of the family unit while it will instill an emotional stunting on the males and give them the impression emotions are women's things. A child brought up in either scenario will continue the cycle unless taught otherwise. This is generational.