Hmmm… I see truth here but also maybe not? I think the warning might perhaps be that we must be wary of catchy sloganized advice doled out in a couple sentences to be easily consumable and vague. For example- when we see or hear advice on “self love,” we seldom if ever hear what is meant- and one missing something like “self love” may not know what self live really is or what type they need. As an example- self care is an example of or natural result of self love. “Community love” and tending emotional or psychological needs is a form of self care and thusly self love. If one is missing community love we can argue that one either needs to live themselves so that others can love them too, or that one needs to exercise the self care to invest the time and effort into finding a community love.
Because it “self love” isn’t quite that simple- feely being told to love yourself better isn’t going to instantly change your routines or manner of thinking of yourself- but community love can be a different sort of tricky. There are many paths to self love and within our minds and lives we can work at changing anyway we want, or work at establishing the discipline and routine and healthy mindsets and habits to be able to make changes, but we can’t really “make” our communities do the the same, community love is external, if we aren’t getting that despite trying to connect to the community, we can’t really compel the community to “work on its love for us” unless the community cares enough about us to want to do so. So as an example, if our community has some bias against us or people “like us” etc- we may need to find a community that will accept us. All manner of factors like geography and logistics let alone knowing where to look can make that potentially difficult.
As for being made a certain way- people are different. We evolved… or were “made” so that to some degree almost all of us require some amount of socialization to be happy and healthy, but what that means can differ person to person. It is generally beneficial to have emotional or practical support- society and social groups evolved around the practicality of strength in numbers, so most things can be easier or more productive with some sort of assistance. A problem lies in how many pieces of potentially useful information are distilled into vague catch phrases that start to lose meaning and through propagation and slogans become white noise of sorts. It’s a bit like giving advice to someone trying to grow a plant that isn’t thriving. “Water it. Give it sunlight” etc. are all very general and may or may not apply to their specific situation. Some plants need direct sunlight, others indirect, “don’t overwater” varies and how does someone know they are “overwatering” vs. under watering?
This is why in large part mental health professionals generally do not give diagnosis on persons that aren’t their patients- like a celebrity in the media, for ethics or legal reasons. Without actually having the time to understand that person and observe first hand any diagnosis and treatment can be more harm than good. It’s generally irresponsible. When it comes to happiness and we’ll being most all humans can follow a pretty basic checklist of needs- but the issues usually lie in other places that have to do with circumstances and specifics that require more than a generic and general approach to work out.
I think this ignores the context in which that is said. Normally you're not telling any specific person to love themselves, it's just something said to people in general, like on a bill board, or internet meme, meant to be seen by anyone who may or may not need to hear it.
This tweet seems to imply that individuals are directly being told to love themselves, while honestly I don't see very often, if at all.
This tweet seems to imply that individuals are directly being told to love themselves, while honestly I don't see very often, if at all.