I mean I get it but- firstly you can change those things, or just ain’t pleasant or easy for everyone. Of course that may sound dismissive, so does ignoring the fact weight is often tied to psychological and other mental factors and “stop eating and get some exercise” can be as unpleasant or difficult for some as to gain an inch of height would be. Food can be a literal addiction and an attitude of “will power” is just ignorant on so many levels.
But- society has traditionally and still largely does put a huge emphasis and value on women’s appearance. “Sugar mommas” are a thing but not so common- Look at business and entertainment and see all the objectively unattractive, short, “fat” or otherwise physically below the standard of beauty men who have EXTREMELY attractive partners. Often many. Confidence, money, power, sense of humor and personality- these are things society and partners often value most in men. Very few people get rich or successful or land stable and fulfilling or…
.. even casual relationships walking around saying “I have a big dick.” Unless you have honey hoppers and such in your stable, you think the girl at the coffee shop knows you have a huge dick just because you had sex with a girl from the super market last weekend? Like there is a group chat where women share names and photos of guys with big dicks? Most people don’t know your dick size and how you act might give them an impression but lots of guys act bigger or smaller than their dicks would suggest if that was so important. Go make lots of money, be fun and interesting, and/or go five head first into your passions and you’ll find that your height and dick size probably aren’t what you’ll be most judged on at first impressions. That said- of course making fun of people isn’t nice, regardless of what you are making fun of. We generally do this to hurt people. So why do you want to hurt someone?
You make a good point. Making fun of others, whether they can change it or not is hurtful. So, the feature they are making fun of is generally not relevant. The person is trying to be hurtful, and maybe they make fun of a man’s height, but if he’s not short—they are probably going to find something else to make fun of.
Maybe it just feels different when you feel like the butt of a joke, but I find it distasteful when people are mean in regard to features of another person whether they can help it or not. I don’t think it’s okay to make short jokes or fat jokes.
And, weight is not always something that can be readily changed. There are a lot of factors involved. Aside from mental health concerns, there are plenty of conditions that make it difficult to loose weight. Yeah. Some people are just lazy and eat too much. But a lot of people have much more nuanced situations.
But- society has traditionally and still largely does put a huge emphasis and value on women’s appearance. “Sugar mommas” are a thing but not so common- Look at business and entertainment and see all the objectively unattractive, short, “fat” or otherwise physically below the standard of beauty men who have EXTREMELY attractive partners. Often many. Confidence, money, power, sense of humor and personality- these are things society and partners often value most in men. Very few people get rich or successful or land stable and fulfilling or…
Maybe it just feels different when you feel like the butt of a joke, but I find it distasteful when people are mean in regard to features of another person whether they can help it or not. I don’t think it’s okay to make short jokes or fat jokes.
And, weight is not always something that can be readily changed. There are a lot of factors involved. Aside from mental health concerns, there are plenty of conditions that make it difficult to loose weight. Yeah. Some people are just lazy and eat too much. But a lot of people have much more nuanced situations.