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party05
· 1 year ago
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maybe we should be saying “it’s gonna suck” for things that we haven’t improved yet. i’ve always felt these sayings are because it sets the expectation that the experience will be unpleasant but worth it, rather than saying it’s supposed to suck.
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· 1 year ago
If we expect bad things to happen, good things are a pleasant surprise
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natethegreat
· 1 year ago
I share this attitude on life...
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guest_
· 1 year ago
I like party05’s take- sometimes we know from experience things tend to be unpleasant. But like… medicine is pretty much supposed to taste bad. It’s kinda a safety thing. It already looks like candy, which can be a hazard which children and certain others, so if it tastes great and looks like candy that could maybe cause problems with something that taking more than the prescribed dosage can hurt or kill you. People have enough problem with food portions and control no? We wouldn’t need a tire documentaries on McDonald’s and school band on sofas and snacks if people could just say: “it tastes good but I can only have this much…” so like- sometimes things ARE maybe supposed to suck with good reason.
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guest_
· 1 year ago
Divorces tend to suck. Sometimes at least one partner ends up happier after a split but if divorce was easy it sort of would undermine the seriousness of marriage- it would just be dating with tax breaks and such. If divorce was fun perhaps people would end up getting in relationships just to get married and get divorced. You have some fun, save on taxes, get a big party, and then have fun being divorced. Of course that would potentially strain the system and make marriage even more frivolous and a lot of people could be hurt as fun or not they may have been in it for the relationship while their partner was just in it for a fun ride and a divorce right?
guest_
· 1 year ago
So there are lots of examples but sometimes things suck because we haven’t yet found a better way or made the better way the norm, and sometimes they might actually benefit us to suck. I mean- if we could “rewire” the body so that any signal for pain or discomfort became a nice feeling… well… it might feel great to stick your hand in a fire or get carpal tunnel. We evolved, or were made of one prefers, to feel pain and discomfort to help us avoid death and injury and such. A system of rewards and aversions and “punishments” helps guide us from birth into old age in deciding behaviors and attempting to be successful organisms. It is also the case there is overlap- most psychologists and such agree there are examples of things like “good stress,” simply put organisms tend to only evolve under stress. Without stress to push us forwards we tend to stagnate.
guest_
· 1 year ago
So some things suck because that’s physics or some reality we can’t reasonably change, others suck because we aren’t using or haven’t found a better way, and others suck because it’s prudent for them to suck. The thing is- some suckage is healthy. It is actually unhealthy by most models to have no suck. We need boundaries. What’s more, to live only in what is pleasant or happy is to miss out on an entire aspect of being human and to not have knowledge or experience with your emotions. Someday something is going to suck for everyone. Most of us have bad days, get sick, get hurt, people we love die and things we love don’t last forever. Being healthy emotionally doesn’t mean always being happy. Being able to feel your emotions and process them and still be in control of your actions as much as anyone has any control anyway, that’s healthy. If you never feel sad or nothing ever sucks you aren’t lucky or healthy, something is very wrong.
