Well, as human beings we usually put people of the opposite sex as a partner to make babies and spend our lives with. Being in the "friend zone" keeps us from moving into that stage of life. Most people I've ever known have no deep friends of the opposite sex. That's just how it is.
Quite interesting because in most of my friend groups and extended friend groups this is not the case at all. People view each other mainly as friends with the occasional partner interest.
I suppose it's true we have friends of the opposite sex, but I won't be going to a movie or dinner with just them. If she enjoys spending time with him so much she can make that commitment to him, or does she only want to be a friend sometimes and still leave herself open for someone else.
I can kinda see what you mean, but I thinkyou should be able to have deep discussions and go to the movies or whatever with them. Obviously an actual partner is more intimate, but if the guys consider you as one of the guys it's not a problem at all. If you're worried about commitment, it sounds like some jealousy is peeking out.
I think because men in general severely lack close platonic female friendships, and so when a girl gets close, their “girlfriend bar” is much shorter than a girls “boyfriend bar”
I have a very mixed group of friends, but I am definitely closer to the girls than the guys.
I have a very mixed group of friends, but I am definitely closer to the girls than the guys.