Embarrassing them.? I've grown up with a less than middle class family, my parents aren't afraid to ask for money. They should have no reason to be. As long as I have money, my parents have money. I will short myself anyday for them.
While your family may be that way, its certainly the exception, not the norm. Most people dislike talking about their lack of money, especially to their children. The expectation is that you'll take care of your children, not the other way around, THAT is why many find it embarrassing. Its awesome that you make more money than your parents and you are all open enough to talk about it though. I know many people that shut down the moment money starts being discussed
I'm 16 and work a part time job. I'm trying to save up so that the money for basic living expenses when I get to college. I live in a low income family so what's been happening is that every time I get my check, my Mom asks for money over and over again until I'm left with what a fraction of what I had, yet whenever I try to refuse her she brings up the fact that she raised me and gave me everything she could..etc until I feel guilty and give it to her anyway. She doesn't even use it for things she needs, she buys cigarettes, clothes, and so on. I don't know how to avoid giving her money. Somehow this has become a confessional. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to stop it?
Didn't see any guilt tripping by others, but to add another opinion, try talking to her about it. Explain what you are wanting with the money, explain what you feel comfortable giving her money for (food, electric bill, gas, or nothing, whatever its up to you) If she really "raised you and gave you everything she could" she would even be helping you save too, rather than using what you are trying to save (might sound harsh, but its the truth imo)
The thing about paying her bills is that the money that would've been earmarked for that can now be used for shit like cigarettes now.
Btw, I agree with the "if she really raised you" part above^.
Coming from a swagmaster.. I'm not gonna be taking your advice. Why did I get so many downvotes?? I was just being honest and everytime i comment on your website the members downvote me.. I was thinking about signing up but now screw this :\
Btw, I agree with the "if she really raised you" part above^.
but I know she can't pay me back immediately, as long as it is paid in full some day