Right. That’s the point of the original post. ‘That’s what my parent did, and that’s what my kids need.’ Thing is, there are plenty of kids out there that are well behaved without being hit. And finding other methods of discipline doesn’t mean they are coddled. It means they weren’t taught that you can solve problems by hitting. I taught my kid not to hit; and part of that was by not hitting him.

@rachee you talk about shame being a poor tool for discipline but shame is one of the reasons spanking is not a good tool for discipline. Studies show that spanking does cause shame (one of the reasons that it is not a recommended method of discipline) So, I guess you made your own point.

That’s exactly what I was trying to say earlier. There is actual legit study that shows that spanking (not beating the crap out of kids, just a pop on the bottom spanking) is not good for children. My kid is the most obstinate stubborn creature born and there is no doubt in my mind that spanking him or all out beating him would not change his behavior in the slightest.

Back when texting required the use of the number pad you pressed the number one time for the first letter (6=m), twice for the second letter (66=n), and three times for the third (666=o).

There’s actually some good, peer reviewed study out there about the inefficiency of spanking as a discipline method. I think many people can agree that beating the kids is abusive. But a lot people think spanking works and kids need it, but the studies don’t show that to be true. It seems to lead to behavioral/emotional issues later in life.
I think each parent/family is different so I try not to judge when I see parents who spank, but there are plenty of well discipled children out there who behave without the threat of violence.

Could be either or both. But also worth considering that just because a person can wield a gun doesn’t mean they fully have the ability to process the situation. Kids are still developing. So shooting someone doesn’t necessarily have the same weight it might to an adult, who has finished developing. Also, developmentally speaking, teenagers are at an all time low for empathy (not kids these days, just people in that developmental age range). So, it could just as easily be that he really isn’t able to emphasize with the guy he shot.

Yeah. Same except it was under the stove. But it’s always something. There was one house I rented where we actually did quite a bit of improvement. We added metal handles on all the cabinet doors, shelving in closets, flowerbeds with stone surrounds and lived two years with throw rugs on every carpet, especially walkways.
I just stopped hoping for a deposit return, I consider it a payment. (Don’t get me wrong; I took care of the place as best I could, I just assumed there would be something).

Isn’t that how it works?

Yeah, I think you’re into somethin... I’m gonna say that one is not true.

Right? Lucky the place hasn’t burned down!

Yeah it doesn’t look natural, but 80/20 rule. At least occasionally it will be natural for a woman who puts in the work to look that way. Right?

True story!

For many years my kid had a piñata for each birthday. One year the party was big themed. My spouse bought live crickets to add to the piñata. That’s when you learned who was really dedicated to the candy. There were extra screams when the piñata busted that year. The crickets were fine and scampered to freedom... didn’t find any bodies/carnage.

Nah. COVId-19, doesn’t act like an engineered disease. And it doesn’t kill the population that an aggressor would target. Also, it’s novel, but not outside the realm of previously known Coronaviruses.

@xvarnah we always looked for her when she got out because we worried about her safety. Ultimately, we just had to wait for her to turn up when she was ready to. She was a rescued pet, so maybe he escaping ways were what let to her being abandoned. Because there’s no surprise like pulling back the bed covers see a pile of snake in your spot. Doesn’t matter if you recognize the snake. Doesn’t matter if you’re expecting your snake to turn up somewhere fun. Nothing overrides that initial surprise!