These conversations are exhausting because people truly believe this is a debatable discussion. As a person with behavioral health bachelors and masters degrees, a behavioral health license to practice, focused studies in early child development, experience as a children’s behavior coach, and an actual mother, I can assure you, physical “discipline” is not only NOT the best form of discipline, it has been proven to be damaging across the board (yes, even for children who “don’t listen”). That doesn’t mean that your parents were bad parents, nor that you are messed up because of it, it just means that we can do and be better. It’s not a personal attack, it’s facts based in scientific research. For example, discipline problems can develop in utero with various substance exposures causing the hypocampus to be thinned. Behavior problems can be caused by various maladaptions in the brain during development. Researchers and Professionals study this stuff. It’s not a debate.

There is now extensive research that is readily available and easily accessible that proves that corporal punishment and spanking are not only extremely damaging, but not as effective disciplinarily as many other options. Hitting children is easier than other disciplining techniques because it requires no self-discipline, and when it comes to raising humans, safety is kind of one of the major necessities that we develops loads of maladaptions without (like various symptoms of mental illness).

I washed the outside of my windows and their screens. As a mid-thirties married mother of 2... I’ve never felt like more of an adult. Ever.

Consider how your relationship would be if one or both of you were paralyzed. If you can imagine laughter and fun despite not being able to physically and/or sexually connect, you’re probably on the right track.

The far right is Jean Claud Van Dam

That sounds like depression

Not true, my kid and his friends totally ask me. And they genuinely care. Having kids can be pretty dope sometimes.

Isn’t that what all the 80’s and 90’s coming of age “classics” are all about?

As long as you’re in the right of 2+ lanes, I support this. If not, get out of the passing lane!

There’s no required mutual exclusivity... you can appreciate both. Pitting supporters and individuals against one another is a distraction. Slight of hand. Don’t fall for it.

Happy birthday!!!

My husband and I have a code phrase for if one of us dies and a charlatan/medium tries to take advantage our the other’s emotional state (a la Ghost)

Imagine being the fucking wolf

Sometimes it’s both

Thanks guest! Over simplified assumptions about poverty and government programs breed hatred and more ignorance.

That’s not how neonatal care works

All my nosepicking is actually saving me from this type of disaster. Yessssss

But also... condoms are only 85% effective when used in the real world.

My cat just peed on my bed when I got pregnant