SchemaJoy

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Get some god damn therapy 26 comments
schemajoy · 23 weeks ago
Again, not a debate. Seems like you think discipline and spanking are synonymous. You are absolutely correct, psychological abuse can be worse than physical. Which is why it is not part of most of the wide varieties of disciplinary techniques developed by professionals after extensive research and education in the field. Shaming is employed by a lot of people, and you are correct, it has a negative impact. There are many disciplinary techniques that are not damaging. Many. Developed by professionals who study child growth and social/emotional development.
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Get some god damn therapy 26 comments
schemajoy · 23 weeks ago
These conversations are exhausting because people truly believe this is a debatable discussion. As a person with behavioral health bachelors and masters degrees, a behavioral health license to practice, focused studies in early child development, experience as a children’s behavior coach, and an actual mother, I can assure you, physical “discipline” is not only NOT the best form of discipline, it has been proven to be damaging across the board (yes, even for children who “don’t listen”). That doesn’t mean that your parents were bad parents, nor that you are messed up because of it, it just means that we can do and be better. It’s not a personal attack, it’s facts based in scientific research. For example, discipline problems can develop in utero with various substance exposures causing the hypocampus to be thinned. Behavior problems can be caused by various maladaptions in the brain during development. Researchers and Professionals study this stuff. It’s not a debate.
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90's kid problem 48 comments
schemajoy · 24 weeks ago
I hope that if you have children, you take the time to research discipline techniques and child development, so that you can do your best. That’s all we can do. Continue to learn and grow, and try our best.
90's kid problem 48 comments
schemajoy · 24 weeks ago
None of the others were likely developed when you were a child, and if they were, they were likely not easily accessible to your parents. You’re parents probably did they best they could with what they had. But now that we have the ability to do better by future generations, we owe it to them to put some effort into it.
90's kid problem 48 comments
schemajoy · 24 weeks ago
There is now extensive research that is readily available and easily accessible that proves that corporal punishment and spanking are not only extremely damaging, but not as effective disciplinarily as many other options. Hitting children is easier than other disciplining techniques because it requires no self-discipline, and when it comes to raising humans, safety is kind of one of the major necessities that we develops loads of maladaptions without (like various symptoms of mental illness).
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Relax 6 comments
schemajoy · 24 weeks ago
If you’re doing good in the hopes of others noticing/praising, you’ll NEVER be fulfilled and appreciated to the degree you desire, and your feelings will continually be hinged on factors that are not within your control. Work on finding satisfaction from within, only then are you in control of your emotions. We are all responsible for our own mental health (which we absolutely should never sacrifice).
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Very true 9 comments
schemajoy · 24 weeks ago
I washed the outside of my windows and their screens. As a mid-thirties married mother of 2... I’ve never felt like more of an adult. Ever.
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As a lawyer, I can confirm 9 comments
schemajoy · 24 weeks ago
Consider how your relationship would be if one or both of you were paralyzed. If you can imagine laughter and fun despite not being able to physically and/or sexually connect, you’re probably on the right track.
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Wonderful actors 11 comments
schemajoy · 24 weeks ago
The far right is Jean Claud Van Dam
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My life right now 10 comments
schemajoy · 27 weeks ago
That sounds like depression
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My fav is Diplodocus 8 comments
schemajoy · 28 weeks ago
Not true, my kid and his friends totally ask me. And they genuinely care. Having kids can be pretty dope sometimes.
Just think about the franchise names 9 comments
schemajoy · 42 weeks ago
Isn’t that what all the 80’s and 90’s coming of age “classics” are all about?
Dr. Seuss 10 comments
schemajoy · 43 weeks ago
He was also antisemitic
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Accurate 5 comments
schemajoy · 43 weeks ago
As long as you’re in the right of 2+ lanes, I support this. If not, get out of the passing lane!
Chose your heroes wisely 12 comments
schemajoy · 43 weeks ago
There’s no required mutual exclusivity... you can appreciate both. Pitting supporters and individuals against one another is a distraction. Slight of hand. Don’t fall for it.
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Happy Birthday tooo meee 13 comments
schemajoy · 43 weeks ago
Happy birthday!!!
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Cyborg clones - it's an epidemic 4 comments
schemajoy · 44 weeks ago
My husband and I have a code phrase for if one of us dies and a charlatan/medium tries to take advantage our the other’s emotional state (a la Ghost)
Airborne Infantry Land in Normandy (June 6th, 1944) 4 comments
schemajoy · 45 weeks ago
Imagine being the fucking wolf
As a guy I find this hillariously true 2 comments
schemajoy · 46 weeks ago
Sometimes it’s both
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What a disaster that would be 10 comments
schemajoy · 1 year ago
Oh shit, I see what you did there
What a disaster that would be 10 comments
schemajoy · 1 year ago
Thanks guest! Over simplified assumptions about poverty and government programs breed hatred and more ignorance.
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Faith in humanity restored 6 comments
schemajoy · 1 year ago
That’s not how neonatal care works
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Unlucky 13 comments
schemajoy · 1 year ago
All my nosepicking is actually saving me from this type of disaster. Yessssss
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This is epic! 4 comments
schemajoy · 1 year ago
But also... condoms are only 85% effective when used in the real world.
Moms got to stick together! 7 comments
schemajoy · 1 year ago
My cat just peed on my bed when I got pregnant
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