I'm a guy and I totally see it. Damn, this makes me think. I'm sorry girls, but I really think this is hard wired into our brains. Never have a truly met a guy who's friends with a girl just to be friends.
If there is a dude you're fancying, then take the initiative and ask him out. And having friends is, in my opinion, much more long lasting. I've been through three girlfriends in past 6 years, and my friends just call me stupid and buy me drinks while I sob quietly.
I've lost so many good friends because of this. ):
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finally! i am so tired of guys (or girls) complaining about the 'friend zone' it's like they think they did us a favor by being our friend so we have to return this unknown favor and be there girl friend. And if not, we are hateful and horrible friends!
I think you misunderstand. If a guy wants you to be his gf after you're already friends then it's because he really likes you. Nothing to do about a 'favor'. But that's were most guys get stuck, instead of being a douchbag and murder her family (that's what girls like right ??), they actually care and try to know her and be her friend before asking her out !!
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i tend to like my friends and would generally go out with them. my problem is when all these 'nice guys' act like there friend is horrible for not being their girlfriend. (sorry im having trouble putting it into words, does that make sense). just cause you are my friend does not mean i want to, or should have to go out with you.
I understand what you're saying. But that's not how guys in the friendzone think. We are, in the first place, not really going for the friend thing. But most guys are too scared or shy to just ask someone out so they try to figure out what she's like and what she likes. But it's right then and there where the bear trap snaps. And it's not easy opening a fucking bear trap !!
This actually happens to me. So I'm a "nice girl" so I have a lot of friends (lol haha nope diverse) and I'm a "nerd" and I attract nerds. And I wanted to be best friends and watch Dr. Who together. Cross my hearts.
In all honesty im guilty of putting girls in the "girlfriend zone" but if I try to be more then friends with a girl and shes only interested in a friendship then im cool with that. I dont blow them off, I continue to be friends. Some of my best friends are chicks :D
I know you're joking, but I find it sad that the only time a boy will 100% lay off of you romantically is if you are already with someone, girl or boy. And even then it depends. It's stupid that you can't just be like "hey, we're cool, but I am just not that into your p**is. And still be friendly.
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Lol I like how the tables were turned on us guy XD lol no but I don't care if I'm friendzoned as long as I can still see them be happy ?:) it doesn't really matter if I'm their boyfriend or not:)
My sister was friends with a guy she'd known since first grade, this year he asked her out, she rejected him, and he proceeded to date and turn her best friend against her. After that I've promised myself that I'd never get too crushed if I get rejected by one of my female friends, and to continue being their friend.
Except your boyfriend should be, first and foremost, your best friend. And if you think that a relationship is the end of a friendship, then you need to rethink what being in a relationship means. My boyfriend of a year and a half is the best friend I've ever had.
I think this view is a little messed up. A guy seeing you as girlfriend material over friend material and trying to get close to you in hopes of eventually dating you isn't a downgrade - he's not just using you to get a girlfriend. He's trying to treat you right by getting to know you before he jumps into a relationship and risks eventually hurting you. He wants a real, long-term relationship.
And I hate to break it to you: doing stuff with a guy one-on-one - playing video games, watching movies, going hiking, going to concerts, listening to his problems - sends the signal that you're interested in him as more than a friend, because that's what people in relationships do.
There's nothing wrong with having a crush.
That's a great point- and it isn't countering the point of the post at all. When you have a great friendship with your partner, that isn't countering all the other friendships you are capable of having at all. And to that point, it's saying if you meet someone who decides not to like you romantically, you ought to be able to keep them as a friend while you keep searching.
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It's great that you see that friendship can lead to romance- the point of this is that sometimes it just leads to friendship. And that's okay too. Thanks for checking out my post! <3
That isn't at all how I interpreted this- after seeing waves and waves of friendzoned posts which do criticize women for being friends with men but not taking the friendship to a romantic or sexual place, I thought a post turning that around to show how ridiculous that way of thinking is should be shown. I appreciate your perspective, I think the more people look at it like "what the heck" the better we can erase that whole ideology :-)
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That's what gay dudes are for you dizzy broad. If your "male friend" isn't already involved romantically with a woman then you're IT. Or not, get a clue.
...that caps lock there is the mating call of a man with no opposite sex of any kind in his life (innuendo intended lol). I am with Crash, I have women friends, one of my best friends happens to be of the double X variety. And it doesn't bother me or my girlfriend (:
I think this view is a little messed up. A guy seeing you as girlfriend material over friend material and trying to get close to you in hopes of eventually dating you isn't a downgrade - he's not just using you to get a girlfriend. He's trying to treat you right by getting to know you before he jumps into a relationship and risks eventually hurting you. He wants a real, long-term relationship.
And I hate to break it to you: doing stuff with a guy one-on-one - playing video games, watching movies, going hiking, going to concerts, listening to his problems - sends the signal that you're interested in him as more than a friend, because that's what people in relationships do.
There's nothing wrong with having a crush.
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It's great that you see that friendship can lead to romance- the point of this is that sometimes it just leads to friendship. And that's okay too. Thanks for checking out my post! <3
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