Very rarely can the mother be blamed. There is, usually, nothing to forgive.
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I think there's usually a lot of guilt and self-blame. I thankfully haven't gone through this myself, but I knew women on pregnancy forums who have. Very sad. :(
Nobody has yet asked how one MAKES someone else get an abortion. I find this very curious. Sounds more like the woman wants to relieve herself of all blame and place it on their partner. Let's not forget that this decision is 100% the woman's.
My mother was abused and threatened into having sex with men when she didn't want to by her own husband. A woman being forced into an abortion doesn't sound that far-fetched.
Fuck off! You don't know what my dad did to her! He threatened to leave her when she didn't have any money or anywhere to go. He hit her. He emotionally and verbally abused her. She had no help. She was trapped. He and his friend would drag her out of the shower or wherever else and pin her to the floor to have their way with her and punish her! Don't say he didn't force her to do what he wanted!
Just because they did all that doesn't mean she didn't still have a choice when it came to the abortion. She could still have decided to keep the baby, but apparently she didn't. Like I said, influences don't matter. Unless they knocked her out or whatever, it was still her decision.
Oh. Well of course I know that she wouldn't choose to be treated so horribly. Who would?
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Song, I absolutely agree that force takes more forms than just physical. Assuming that anyone who isn't being physically forced into something must actually want to do it is offensive and just plain wrong.
When it comes to abortion, there are steps to be taken, and you are in the presence of professionals. I know that, at least where I live, we've seen and heard it all, and know how to intervene if there's even an inkling of a woman being coerced into an abortion.
Also, it should go without saying, but I'm sorry you and your mother had to endure that barbarism.
I know exactly how that feels because I miscarried in 2012 a little baby boy and I still feel horrible and guilty and so hurt and destroyed everyday because not one day do I not think about the life I could have had with him, all his firsts, his face, everything that I had planned for him was destroyed in that moment I realized I had lost my baby. It is still so painful to think about it and it hurts so much more because I feel and know I can't do anything about it. It feels like this nagging feeling that won't go away
Thank you, I still feel that way everyday but it makes it just a little bit better now because I have a 1 year old boy who means everything to me. I still feel that way but looking at my son now makes it feel just a little bit better at handling my loss, deep down inside my head and heart I keep hearing this thought and feeling that god gave me this little baby boy to make up for losing my firstborn and that's the same little boy, it's crazy to think that but I do believe in reincarnation and god and I think he gave me back my son just 6 months after I miscarried. I believe god Is real because of that reason alone and I had never really believed in a god until I realized this
There's a difference between being a troll and being an asshole. You honestly think abortion is funny? You need to apologize to everybody for the oxygen that's being wasted on a pathetic excuse for a human being like you.
Wow sorry man, I guess I'm just sick of people thinking abortion is a normal and fine thing to do and then they mourn over a miscarriage when really the only difference is that one is deliberate and the other is not.
No one thinks it's fine and normal. Pretty much all people who get one feel horrible but there's usually a good reason they have to get one. First, there could be health risks like more than likely the mother or baby could die during childbirth. Sometimes they don't have the right situation to bring a child into like a broken home with an abusive spouse. And orphanages are full as it is and a lot of people would rather make their own baby than adopt so it's not like lots of those kids are getting out all the time. And sometimes their raped and don't want to have the kidbecahse instead of seeing their loving child they would always be reminded of something they want to forget
What did you think was happening ? Did you think people went in singing showtunes and went on with their life once it was over ? No it's not like that. It's emotionally and physically horrible and scars people for life. No one wants an abortion. No one thinks it fun and fine. Sometimes its the best or only option.
Clearly you haven't been looking at the statistics. Although some have reasons, there are many who seem to think that their comfort is more important than the life of a human being. There are countless stories of parents refusing the option of abortion being strongly suggested by their doctor, and then having that child grow up to be a perfectly normal and successful human being. Much too many babies are being killed only because people ASSUME their lives will be horrible and not worth living due to a condition or disability, when in reality those with disabilities are at times the happiest people alive. If you heard about a mass murder of people with Down syndrome, I know for a fact that you would be outraged, and yet thousands of babies are being aborted each year for that reason only.
I've already apologised for my first comment, so please don't see this as justification, but my brother who suffers from cerebral palsy would have been aborted if it wasn't for my mothers belief that EVERY human being deserves a chance at life, no matter who they are.
Now, let the shitstorm of thumbs COMMENCE!
Also, it should go without saying, but I'm sorry you and your mother had to endure that barbarism.
What did you think was happening ? Did you think people went in singing showtunes and went on with their life once it was over ? No it's not like that. It's emotionally and physically horrible and scars people for life. No one wants an abortion. No one thinks it fun and fine. Sometimes its the best or only option.