How many good girls(girls who friendzone) does it take to change a lightbulb ?? None they just try and try to put back the old bulb to make it work but in the end they just get shattered glass it their hands. And all that time the brand new working bulb is right there on the table.
Then why would they get THAT one ?? They know it would fit and it would work much beter !! But still the old light won't let them see that the other one is beter !!
They didn't get that one, that one is just being kept there till a fitting is found for it. It won't work at all with wrong fitting and it needs to accept that and move on. It can't force itself into a fitting where its not wanted. It could break and end up breaking the fitting too.
I actually have been in the friendzone, until I realized that as much as I loved her, she'd never love me back, so I did the right thing, I let go. The fact of the matter is, as much as you think that you'd be able to make her much happier, she's not going to see it from your point of view. Don't eff up a good friendship by trying to turn it into a relationship. Move the hell on. That's what I did, and I found someone way better, who feels the same way about me.
*Walks into a room filled with people beating together bloody stumps, some whistling, some trying to remember what they're still clapping about, but continuing with the ritual they created over 6 years ago*
Girls friendzone people because they don't want to be seen as sexual objects. Fair enough, right? Then why is it fair for boys to be bashed for having a very rational, human sadness about this? As if it's okay for a boy to be objectified, but not a girl.
When people say " if only there was someone like you " they're saying that they want someone like you, but not you because they're not attracted to you. And I've seen and experienced guys getting pissy I won't date them because I was in a relationship at the time and just wanted friends. But there are people who know the other wants a relationship but keeps them as friends and continues to string them along. That is the friendzone.
For most of us friend zoned guys, we're not looking to screw, we just want a girl that we can spend time with and be there for. But you girls always go for the asshole! Then he dumps you after a week when he finds out you won't screw him and that pisses us off
You're looking for someone to "spend time with and be there for"? You already have that by being a friend. What you say you're looking for is what you already have.
And girls do not always go for the arsehole, they just sometimes don't pick you. Have the balls to accept that and carry on being able to spend time with her and be there for her as her friend.
Dear girls: You don't need to be a bitch when a platonic friend asks you out by saying bullshit like "Oh I just like you as a friend", just fucking say "No" it's not that hard. Don't be a coward about it then claim all we want is sex. I've been friendzoned before and honestly, the thought of sex with the girl who friendzoned me never once crossed my mind until I read these shitty posts.
If a guy complains about being friendzoned, it's usually not because he expects free sex, but because "I just like you as a friend" hurts more than a fucking period, and a HELL of a lot more than a simple "No"
Also, as mentioned above, a lot of girls friendzone a guy then constantly say to them "WHy can't a find a nice guy just like you".
But either way, whether you want sex or not, neither a male or female is obligated to be more than friends with you. Sure they may say they want a "nice guy" like you, but that doesn't mean that you're the guy they're looking for. Different people have different preferences and sometimes its better to appreciate the friendship you have than try to ruin it by forcing a relationship that might not work out. There's nothing wrong with someone saying "I like you better as a friend." Its being honest, because its a fact that if your relationship doesn't work out, you'll never be able to be the friends you were again. So its better to not mess things up. Be happy that they're at least being your friend instead of bitching about how they don't wanna take it further. They may not be ready for the relationship you want.
I'm not sure what side of the fence I'm sitting on here, but I disagree with this post in general I guess. For one, it's not only guys who get friend-zoned - but for some bizarre reason, some of them (not all, but they are the more vocal ones, unfortunately) seem to believe this and that it is only women who hold the power to friend-zoned. Speaking from experience, females can be friend-zoned too, and by guys (or other girls, not trying to dis-include other sexualities here) who say the same excuse of 'I only like you as a friend'.
There are plenty of decent people out there and I don't think all of them who get friend-zoned can be placed under the 'she/he won't have sex with me' category, that's just blatant ignorance. That's not all what relationships are about and is not something that should be used in a way that targets people unjustly.
Of course, this is just my opinion - but I can't be the only one whose considered this.
Hope you have a nice day. :)
I'm just saying, I don't mind the friendzone. Because you have an excuse to look at her and she can come to you when her boyfriend is being a dick and it's awesome. I love it
You see, there are two types of "friendzoned" guys.
There are the ones who think women are obligated to sleep with them just for being nice, AKA idiotic douchebags.
Then there are the guys that basically dedicate themselves to a girl and go out of their way to make said girl happy, only to have the girl say something along the lines of "I wish I could find someone like you..".
Am I the only one that thinks a little frustration about the second "friendzone" listed above is at least slightly justified?
See, I'm never one to get into these things, but I respectfully have to step in here. Yes, we of the Friend Zone do understand that what you are looking for with us is a platonic friendship, and myself and those around me typically respect those boundaries. However, the issue for us lies in the phrase "If only there was a guy like you" or whatever variation the phrase comes in. That says that what you're looking for is us, and that you know it too, and from that point on we can't understand why you won't give it a shot. Our hearts are screaming for you to take the leap, to give us, those who know you better than anyone, than yourselves, a chance. Because we're tired of seeing you hurt, tired of seeing someone else take advantage of you and your need for companionship, which even as friends we are more than happy to do. That's why we seek something more; to end the hurt, to see you happy, to have you smile. It's not about the sex; it's because we truly love you and give a damn.
Nicely said guest. Sadly nowadays friendzoned guys are consider douche and douche to be the nice guys. But really if you don't have the guts to tell/show her it's your fault you're. Just think how she feels when she sees you, thinks you could be the one but you're too afraid of even touching her. How the hell would you sleep with her if you can't even hug her or make any physical contact. This is a problem I see in many of my friends and sometimes even in me. Sincerely, not a friendzoned guy.
And girls do not always go for the arsehole, they just sometimes don't pick you. Have the balls to accept that and carry on being able to spend time with her and be there for her as her friend.
If a guy complains about being friendzoned, it's usually not because he expects free sex, but because "I just like you as a friend" hurts more than a fucking period, and a HELL of a lot more than a simple "No"
Also, as mentioned above, a lot of girls friendzone a guy then constantly say to them "WHy can't a find a nice guy just like you".
There are plenty of decent people out there and I don't think all of them who get friend-zoned can be placed under the 'she/he won't have sex with me' category, that's just blatant ignorance. That's not all what relationships are about and is not something that should be used in a way that targets people unjustly.
Of course, this is just my opinion - but I can't be the only one whose considered this.
Hope you have a nice day. :)
There are the ones who think women are obligated to sleep with them just for being nice, AKA idiotic douchebags.
Then there are the guys that basically dedicate themselves to a girl and go out of their way to make said girl happy, only to have the girl say something along the lines of "I wish I could find someone like you..".
Am I the only one that thinks a little frustration about the second "friendzone" listed above is at least slightly justified?