When i saw this all i thiyght about was the saying "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb". I was bullied abuse and looked down on by everyone on my mother's side so yes i do harbor ill feelings towards them.
My friends grandma constantly tells her she needs to lose weight even though she is already almost flat tummied, but she says it in a rude way. And her grandma is like waaayyy bigger than her. But she hasn't said anything because she was raised you always need to show respect to your elders even if they're shits.
I feel this. My parents are shit to me. All my friends are like "they're your parents, you have to love them." And I'm just like 'If that's your opinion, fine. But I can't love someone who always makes me feel like I'm a worthless waste of time, effort and space, unfit and undeserving of life.'
You need to get new friends. I used to have a "best" friend who did that and it actually made me feel like my parents treating me like shit was an okay thing and that it's somehow my fault that it's all happening. Needless to say, I've grown apart from her and much closer to someone else and she really helps me through family things and doesn't say stupid shit like "they're your family".
Oh my god my previous friend group used to give me so much shit for hating my dad to the point where I can't even grit my teeth and lie out a simple "I love you" on most days. And it's most of his side of the family that I hate (especially my grandmother), I have no problem with my mom or her side. My current friend group is a helluva lot more supportive and hate them alongside me whenever I tell them a genuine home-made horror story. And there are still some of the more painful stuff that I haven't even told them yet (but I had told them to the previous friend group) and its just... ugh so much drama
You should love your family, in that they should be people who you are capable of loving. If they treat you in a manner that leaves you unable to love them, then hating them with every fiber of your being is fine.
I have been raised for the past 14 years by my alcoholic mother. (Recently she's stopped because I ran to my grandma's for a week, but know she hates me and won't come home till 10pm because of AA) That's 14 years of possibly not having dinner because your mom wants booze and didn't take help. Don't tell me that after college I should stay in touch not when you have the perfect home life and don't know the pain of having to make sure she's still breathing at 2 am or cleaning up her beer and vomit. Sorry for rants
i do not agree with for the sole reason that i consider family everyone i love. you dont have to be blood related to be family. the friends you hold dear, those people that are ALWAYS by your side, that support you, those who you cannot imagine living without, those are your true family, and if your blood related "family" abuses you or bullies, they are not family and you shouldnt feel a thing towards them. just the ones that actually deserve it are worthy of being loved unvonditional
I'll truly say that I don't love my parents. We are rich but there's no love. My mother and father constantly cheat on each other. Im always ignored and my nanny is the only one who loves me. I haven't seen my dad in 8 months and my mom in 5.
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· 8 years ago
I love my mum and step dad, but hate my brother and biological dad. They are racist, sexist, homophobic, abusive, trailer trash. I can never repay my mother for protecting me from them when I was young, she saved me
You get to choose your friends. Family you're stuck with for life, with no choice about it.
I get so pissed off when people tell me that my family is going to be the only constant support I am ever going to have. Bullshit.
Well, you aren't stuck with them. Once you are a legal adult you can take all your stuff and move out and never talk to them again and have your own family ( of you want )
I hate how these tumblr bastards act like they actually have struggles in life. I bet they're just pissed cuz they're mom told them that they're not actually eggkin, and that they should grow up.
You'd be shocked at how many people actually have abusive parents. Don't act like you're the only person in the world who has ever had a problem in life. Just because they're on tumblr, doesn't mean they haven't gone through some serious shit. So chill, please.
There are actually a lot of people on tumblr who have escaped abusive situations and ran away at 15 because their parents were hurting them for no reason. There are people who live in literal war zones and people who have seen their entire family die. Man needs to man up and stop judging people because of a limited view of a website.
Oh shut up everyone on tumblr is just a weak minded bastard who loves to be victimized. They like blaming the world for their own problems, and never look at their own faults. I'm like 90% sure at least one of the users in that screen shot is some obese bitch with dyed hair, who's parents told them that being a wolfkin was childish and that they need to grow up. I'm sure some people actually have abusive homes, but a majority of these cutters on the internet just exaggerate about their problems. If all of those stupid self pity posts on this site (and others) were real, there wouldn't be that many stable people left. In conclusion, most of these posts are just a circle jerk of self pity, and they need to grow up.
Hey Man you need to calm your man tits. 'cause the world has a large ass population 7 billion people all living a life as intricate as yours. So it's quite possible for 100,000 of those people to have had a hard life. And it's more than possible for their to be MANY more who don't go talking about it, but just because some weirdos posted something that's complete bullshit doesn't mean those 100,000 people don't have a hard time with their families.
Eh I've been bullied around the block and when you get older it's just eh forgive and forget
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· 8 years ago
My bf's father beat him and his mother on a regular basis. Threatened to kill them. There's a restraining order now. There are things that can't be forgiven and forgotten
http://img1.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20120615005447/fairytail/images/thumb/7/76/Meidou_Fugaku.jpg/500px-Meidou_Fugaku.jpg
lemme find one...
http://i.imgur.com/3UM0HOt.jpg
In order.
I get so pissed off when people tell me that my family is going to be the only constant support I am ever going to have. Bullshit.