If you want to buy something someone is selling you don't start of the conversation like that lmao. You say "Hey, I was wondering if you still have xyz for sale."
Okay, if he meant that he could've said "I'm interested in your item for sale. If you're free to talk can I call you so we can discuss it." I'm not agreeing with what she said but honestly you should explain to people why you want to talk to them if its a business thing.
I really like how people put a lot of blame on him. If he had stated his intentions first, it wouldn't have allowed her to assume that he was romantically interested in her. Kind of like if a woman is scantily dressed, she has part of the blame when raped....wait....that's not how this works. Even though a person contributes to the situation, it is ultimately in the hands of the responder. You cannot control others actions and responses only yours. Regardless of what you added to the situation, someone else chose to behave in a particular way.
The guy tried to strike up a conversation to purchase something. I don't run up to employees at stores saying 'need to buy such and such' and leave it at that. Have some common decency and properly begin a conversation with hello. Then wait for them to respond because it is rude to just jump into what you need.
Let's not compare this to rape, I'm sorry but if someone is SELLING something on craigslist or whatever selling platform there not one person will text them and be like "Hello" and leave it at that. I'm not talking about face to face interactions, I'm talking about selling and buying shit online where yes when you message the seller you do state you're intentions of buying and talking about said items. It's not rude thats how it works "Hello, I saw you're add on Craigslist and I was wondering if you still have it? Can you tell me a little more details about it?" If you message someone just "Hello." They're going to be like who tf is this. Also coming from a ex retail worker if you could keep the small talk to a minimum that'd be great because we really actually hate it.
Did you see the picture of the girl? There is a very high chance that this is someone known to her through Facebook or text message not a stranger on Craigslist. When dealing with strangers, yes it is a great idea to say hello and state at least a beginning to a business transaction, but in retail not necessarily needed...but craigslist isn't retail. It's person to person. In retail you are expected to help a customer and rude manners on either side dampen the outcome of the transaction. This girl most likely knows this dude because she either posted it on her social media and he messaged her there or texted her because he had her phone number. As for making a rape parallel, it is extreme but the concept remains the same. An innocent party isn't asking for it for any reason.
This isn't a selling platform. It's a social platform or text message. Since it is highly likely he is known to her, they aren't strangers that would feel the need to state intention to purchase something.
Also, as someone who is ex retail/customer service...being kind and courteous goes a long way. That small talk helps us get out of the funk of having rude demanding people who treat you like scum. So say hello, always ask at first, say thank you and have a good day.
Or she posted in on a fbook selling page and he is a stranger messaging her or even if not you still tell them the reason you're messaging them like im buying a car from a friend I've known for years and I still was like "Hey, *name* are you still looking into selling your car because im interested." And then after that we spoke like friends. Im not saying she wasnt rude about it because she was but there was a better way to start of that conversation
i think the issue is more on the side of men with overblown egos who write random girls if they wanna date them.
not saying she was right to get angry instantly but i can understand why she did.
it would however help if he dropped that vital bit of information about wantint to buy the phone a tiny bit earlier tho. i mean, if i want a loaf of bread i don't start asking the person selling it if they've got a minute to talk.
The guy tried to strike up a conversation to purchase something. I don't run up to employees at stores saying 'need to buy such and such' and leave it at that. Have some common decency and properly begin a conversation with hello. Then wait for them to respond because it is rude to just jump into what you need.
This isn't a selling platform. It's a social platform or text message. Since it is highly likely he is known to her, they aren't strangers that would feel the need to state intention to purchase something.
not saying she was right to get angry instantly but i can understand why she did.