There's a reason people enjoy it so much though. Yes, it'll probably hurt a little bit, but there's a world of real fun to look forward to immediately after. Find yourself a guy you can trust to be patient and mindful and you'll be loving it in no time.
and actually by being ready. I wasn't. I was pressured to it. I hated it and had intimacy issues. Took time but with the right person it would be ok. If you really feel ready and there is enough foreplay and it is the way you want it (maybe romantic if that is your thing) it would be ok
I still think there's a big difference between "knowing what you're doing" and having read/watched videos about it... (To clear it up, I'm not a virgin)
@guest I'm sorry to hear... Hope it didn't damage you in any way
Same here. I really feel so bad for people especially of my faith that have first times like that.
I'm also a virgin, and I certainly hope that by spreading the word and a little bit of knowledge here and there I can maybe help others...
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Also, @guest 2, that was what I meant, but thank you for clarifying it. C:
A little pain is totally normal and nothing to be worried about. Especially if your hymen is intact, but even if not, things are being stretched and moved about in ways they've never been before. Sorry to be a dick, but it bothers me that people might come here reading the comments and leave thinking that if there's pain, either they weren't ready or their partner didn't care enough about them. It's just not true.
Usually when I see an argument like this I look up the facts and provide citation, but I don't want "average dick size in Kenya" in my search history.
Nothing this time.
It's only scary if you aren't ready. Be prepared, know your body, trust that your partner will listen, and for goodness sake, for the first time, buy lube. BUT make sure you aren't allergic to it first, because then the first time will suck
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In all honesty, every person is different. For some people it hurts for others not. The best things you can do are:
1) be in a loving relationship. I know it seems silly to say this but you'll feel more relaxed with someone you love and trust therefore making it easier.
2) Take your time to get to know each others bodies, what each of you likes and dislikes.
3) Relax and try not to be scared. If you wind yourself up you'll tighten up and it will make it hurt more than it should (talking from experience) and for the men, talking with her will help like asking if it feels good etc and don't worry so much.
4) use condoms and go on the pill (females obvs) so no happy accidents occur and you don't get any icky diseases.
5) This is completely optional but have a little Dutch courage! Don't get drunk but just enough to relax you. Only do this option if you're in a good loving relationship, otherwise please disregard.
I take it up the arse so of course my first time hurt badly. My anus felt destroyed for a while.
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With the blood thing it depends on if the hymen tears or not, but the hymen can be torn before even having sex (usually by accident) so it's not necessarily proof of virginity.
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Pain is usually associated with lack of lubrication. The friction makes it hurt. So go back to foreplay or add lubrication, and relax. If it still hurts then there is a different issue at hand and you should see an obgyn if you're a girl. Also, once you become active, even if it's only one time or only with the same person, let your doctor know. They won't judge you, and they're a wonderful source for questions comments and concerns, and they can help keep you safe
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and also tell your obgyn before your first time as well so they can give you more pointers! stay safe kiddos
@guest I'm sorry to hear... Hope it didn't damage you in any way
I'm also a virgin, and I certainly hope that by spreading the word and a little bit of knowledge here and there I can maybe help others...
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Also, @guest 2, that was what I meant, but thank you for clarifying it. C:
Nothing this time.
http://www.everyoneweb.com/Pr_Update_Knooppunt_Inhoud.aspx?WebID=WORLDPENISSIZE&BoomID=B1&KnooppuntID=K525&LG=
He's a) wrong, and b) the highest average size is in Sudan with 7,1 inches.
1) be in a loving relationship. I know it seems silly to say this but you'll feel more relaxed with someone you love and trust therefore making it easier.
2) Take your time to get to know each others bodies, what each of you likes and dislikes.
3) Relax and try not to be scared. If you wind yourself up you'll tighten up and it will make it hurt more than it should (talking from experience) and for the men, talking with her will help like asking if it feels good etc and don't worry so much.
4) use condoms and go on the pill (females obvs) so no happy accidents occur and you don't get any icky diseases.
5) This is completely optional but have a little Dutch courage! Don't get drunk but just enough to relax you. Only do this option if you're in a good loving relationship, otherwise please disregard.
...*Cries a bit*