I’ve been living alone in Sydney (one of the most expensive cities in the world) since I was 20 and yeah I can’t afford a house but the rent and bills are really worth my independence
"Yah well you chose to live in an smaller community with a solid economy".
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"Yah, well you made better choices than me"
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"Yah, well i'm an entitled brat and i would rather come up will all the reasons I'm unable to achieve things than actually apply myselfe, make difficult choices, and create my own future."
Does this "choosing to live in a better economy" also apply to people who live places like the slums of Rio?
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What constitutes better? How do you measure the quality of two different lives? More over "19 still living at home" implies one was born or grew up there. So does this imply the other person "chose" to be born into a better situation?
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Since they're 19 still living where they were born or grew up, where things cost more, perhaps they simply haven't had the time yet to save enough money and advance themselves to where they can move to a cheaper place? Perhaps they need to live near that place because they are going to a prestigious school to get a higher degree and to move would need to compromise the quality of their education, short sighted both for their own life as well as the future of society. Perhaps they are in fact making sacrifices now to live better later. Maybe, bragging you are xyz years old and about what you can afford is entitled brats bragging?
Im 21 years old living in Vancouver. I'm currently working and also in school but our minimum wage was until recently one one of the lowest in the country. Even now it isn't enough to sustain a single person or even a couple unless you can afford a couple thousand dollars every month. Gas money is expensive and traffic is a joke here anyways it's just easier to take transit however unreliable it is. Nor to mention there is a housing crisis because there aren't that many places available for rent. Of the house's that do exist many don't allow cats (MOST don't allow cats) which is an emotional support animal but isnt protected by law in Canada like it is in the states. Finally? If you can find a place it's going to be around 400 or 500 Sq ft for like 2000 dollars.
But sure. I'm just lazy and entitled.
But wait..... what if everyone (like you and me) who live in big expensive cities moved to cheaper less crowded places? What's that you say? You say that happens all the time? It's called gentrification? It pushes out existing long term residents who can no longer afford to compete for housing against people who consider a home a sweet deal at 20x what locals make in a year? That the cost of living then goes up in these places too and locals that don't have an in vogue skillset either become cheap minimum wage labor or are displaced to other nearby job markets and increase competition for themselves and those locals in the process? Look at Austin Tx, Bend/Portland Or, Seattle Wa or more once "cheap" towns that are becoming the hot spot for remote tech workers and corporate execs because of cheap cost of living and the transplanted "culture" others like them have begun to bring in at the expense of local traditions.
Nothing is stopping you from moving to a cheaper place to live. Bus tickets aren't that expensive and thanks to the internet you can apply for jobs across the country before you even move. This post is nothing but whining
If this post is just whining, the post before it is just bragging, At 19 most people are only 1-3 years out of high school, not finished with (or some even started) college. They are likely still wherever their parents lived and didn't choose to be there. So for those who lucked into growing up where things were cheap enough and a wage strong enough to buy a home at that age to look down from privilege on those who haven't had a real chance as adults to better themselves is low. Many colleges to maximize chances at a better life are in expensive areas. Regardless of circumstance calling out and picking on those who aren't as well off as you is always repugnant. The world we live in (without major changes) requires some to have less than others in order for some to have more. Instead of being an ass about it this person could just be thankful for the fact they were able to buy a home at an age many can't afford a decent used car.
nothing wrong with bragging if you're successful. most people just want to blame all of their problems on some outside force "I was born in a low income neighborhood""I didn't have a great start". that mindset never got anyone anywhere.
I don't think bragging is ever alright save for maybe when you are bragging in earnest to those close to you. There's nothing wrong with being proud of your accomplishments, but you can be proud without rubbing it in other people's faces, tearing them down, or being a braggart. It's true that it is possible to overcome adversity and succeed, but it is not possible for everyone to achieve success extraordinary of their circumstances, some people will fail always. By the same token many often list the things making success difficult, few who brag tend to list all the advantages that allowed them to succeed over others. The path to success is not universal, if there were a "guaranteed system" there would be a lot more comfortably wealthy people and a lot fewer in poverty. Anyone working multiple jobs to make ends meet isn't lazy, there are other components missing and other obstacles beyond them "blaming problems on an outside force."
I suppose you and I have different definitions if bragging. You make good points. I also know that these days there is an "I can't do it" mentality or the idea that "even though other people can come up from the bottom I can't because of..." whether it's race, class, education, politics, whatever
I agree that many people quit before ever having really tried, or fail a couple times and decide they'll never succeed. Many people who could work harder or smarter and get ahead instead rely on excuses to be lazy and protect their pride. But many more legitimately face serious obstacles that not having lived their life we can't judge, and while adversity doesn't define us more than we allow it to, we should still be understanding of their situation. That said- the ethics of pride vs bragging asides- when one succeeds through advantage that they aren't directly responsible for but benefit from, that is not something to be proud of. It is something to be thankful for. I was born in America. I could have lived as well in the poorest country but it would have taken much more work. I was born in a place where my most basic needs are all but guaranteed, and opportunity abounds. We all build on what our ancestors left us, and are helped by any support from family etc. Some have more to start
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"Yah, well you made better choices than me"
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"Yah, well i'm an entitled brat and i would rather come up will all the reasons I'm unable to achieve things than actually apply myselfe, make difficult choices, and create my own future."
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What constitutes better? How do you measure the quality of two different lives? More over "19 still living at home" implies one was born or grew up there. So does this imply the other person "chose" to be born into a better situation?
Or
Since they're 19 still living where they were born or grew up, where things cost more, perhaps they simply haven't had the time yet to save enough money and advance themselves to where they can move to a cheaper place? Perhaps they need to live near that place because they are going to a prestigious school to get a higher degree and to move would need to compromise the quality of their education, short sighted both for their own life as well as the future of society. Perhaps they are in fact making sacrifices now to live better later. Maybe, bragging you are xyz years old and about what you can afford is entitled brats bragging?
But sure. I'm just lazy and entitled.
EDIT: it does not.