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They were bf and gf, drunk in her room,he did it, they broke up, eventually she wrote him a letter saying how angry she was, he responded, they go back and forth a while, write a book about it, did a Ted talk, and here we are

Jinx

Haha I'll delete my link :)

I agree that she's an outlier but it's not like she's telling people to forgive their rapists. She's putting it out there that this is what she did and it helped her move on from destructive behavior. She says in her speech, "What we did is not a formula we're prescribing for others. Nobody has the right to tell anyone else how to handle their deepest pain or their greatest error." As you said Guest, people handle things in their own way..this is how she dealt with it and it helped her find peace

If it brings them peace why shouldn't they forgive the person who ruined their life? Forgiveness isn't for everyone but for some people it can be cathartic. She isn't pushing what she did on others, she's sharing her story on how she found peace in hopes that other victims can feel comfortable coming forward for the help they may need

Because they survived being raped.

In most jurisdictions a sexual assault isn't enough for a restraining order; it's handled in civil court with criminal consequences. When filing paperwork for it, you typically need three incidents at a minimum for the court to hear it.
That doesn't even begin to touch the many reasons people don't report to law enforcement, which is a different subject.
Source: I'm a sexual assault victims advocate.

If a police report is filed you have enough for a restraining order. Basically you only have justify they could be a potential threat, and because its civil rather than criminal the burden of proof is much less strict. Source: I'm a sexual assault survivor who went through it, and my brother is a federal attorney. In my case not only did I have a restraining order on him, despite him not being granted bail it was a technicality, but also his girlfriend despite her not even being there.