I'm with guest. Also- perfevction is in the eye of the beholder but in my book bribing a child to do what's required isn't perfect. Is dad going to give your boss gifts for you everyday so you like your job too?
I dunno man I think the dad just pulled a Pavlov when they were very young, don't think it went on for too long cuz well, people grow up and are no longer children who need some immediate reward because they can't see such long term things.
Age has never made anyone grow up, and looking around I see plenty of adults who don't seem to see long term things very well. Experience is what teaches us, years just give more chances to accumulate experience. I can't tell anyone "the way" to raise kids, whatever works does. What I can say is that this person is old enough to remember this, so they were older enough to learn. In my opinion it's a missed opportunity to grow. Here we replace thought, personal discovery, or dialog with a technique to teach dogs and pidgeons to act as we want without conscious thought- only simple impulse.
Tbh a five year olds( usually the age in first grade) thinking capacity is a lot different than a 15 year olds. The grow and personal discovery thing is just sort of like inspirational quotes bullshit. I don't know about you but I didn't really have a lot of life changing epiphanies when I was 5. (I wouldn't really do what the dad did tho, and this is also probably fake)
Lol. Not internet "nuh uh" but I can honestly say I did. Some didn't completely sink in at the time, but over the years as I milked things over, or later thinking back I came to understand the things I was being taught. I'm not personally into the more "inspirational" aspects of the idea of discovery but the practical. I believe there's wonder in childhood we should let kids enjoy while they can- but we should treat kids of all ages as intelligent as we might an adult. Thinking is a skill we learn. 5 is likely to young to master deep or critical thought but it's not too young to start forming pathways and learning to put things into perspective. You may not understand at the time- just as many teens don't understand things going on around them completely until they're older, and many don't understand their parents until they become parents themselves- but you can plant the seed.
Lol, I'm laughing because at this point I must seem contentious for the sake of it but-. Technically I don't disagree- there's no one way to raise a child. Not trying to debate, just share perspectives. Can we agree we've seen each other's view point and part ways amicably having exchanged thoughts instead?
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