Yep, we have a tendency to see ourselves in a better light- we want to be the best, the goodier and the kindest. As we were teach as kid, the protagonist is always right and good and the others are secondary characters, only part of the plot or the background. So we see what we want to be, not what we are. Is all about perspective.
It’s never been all about “nice.” The guy who worked at the gas station the other day was nice, my neighbor is nice, a cold drink on a hot day is nice and so is finding a $20 bill doing laundry. I’m not looking to date or even have sex with any of them. People all want different things but in general we all want many of the same things- though our priorities may change depending on where we are in life. Not everyone wants a stable relationship or a “care giver” right then. Sometimes it’s just about passion, excitement, lust, or even specifically knowing you’re a mess and not wanting to drag a “nice” person in to your mess- but still wanting certain aspects of a relationship. Even if you’re after “nice,” stable, caring, and long term that doesn’t mean you don’t want passion, respect for your partner, looks, ambition, excitement, etc. Few of anyone picks a life partner just on one attribute. They want someone that is compatible with them and how their life is at that moment.
Pretty much this exactly. I'm not sure who this universal girl all these guys are hitting on is. The simple fact is that taking an interest in someone-- especially romantically-- is a Gamble. If you're not prepared to lose, you should probably walk away from the table right now.
Similarly, unless all men really DO expect any little remotely decent thing they do for a woman to result in sex, women should probably stop complaining so freely that they can't find any "nice" men. If there weren't any nice men, people would pretty much be afraid to leave their houses on a daily basis. If you cant find one, I'd guess you're looking in the wrong places.
Nice is a "nice" trait. But it's never the only thing anyone is looking for. If the people you're interested in aren't measuring up, or responding to what you're doing, chances are there's something beyond niceness that is missing, and one or both parties are overlooking it.
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· 6 years ago
Oh, I'm not nice.
But I'm not the type to be like "throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack", more like "throw me to the wolves and I'm gonna die and hold you responsible"
Throw me to the wolves, and you will forever be haunted in your private and public moments by the chilling, dying screams of a man seized by terror, despair, and utter betrayal as he is devoured alive by predators who would do the same to you given the chance. You will always remember this, and you will be unable to tell if you truly are indifferent, or masking this painful trauma. The choice is yours.
Throw me to the wolves and I'll return damaged, bleeding, and with a pack of wolves behind me angry that one of their pack got crushed by a woman being thrown onto it.
Throw me to the wolves and receive a large fine and several felony charges- as wolves are classified as endangered or protected in my area and feeding, attempting to feed, or otherwise disturbing them carries penalties and fines in addition to the criminal charges of assault simply for throwing me, as well as the additional modifiers that I could easily be killed by the wolves.
Some guy messaging me talking about he wants to talk and that he's a gentleman
Next thing I know is he calling me a cunt for not being interested in seeing his dick
So yea, such a nice guy
Similarly, unless all men really DO expect any little remotely decent thing they do for a woman to result in sex, women should probably stop complaining so freely that they can't find any "nice" men. If there weren't any nice men, people would pretty much be afraid to leave their houses on a daily basis. If you cant find one, I'd guess you're looking in the wrong places.
Nice is a "nice" trait. But it's never the only thing anyone is looking for. If the people you're interested in aren't measuring up, or responding to what you're doing, chances are there's something beyond niceness that is missing, and one or both parties are overlooking it.
But I'm not the type to be like "throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack", more like "throw me to the wolves and I'm gonna die and hold you responsible"
Next thing I know is he calling me a cunt for not being interested in seeing his dick
So yea, such a nice guy
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GJ guest. Living up to the stereotype I see.