Ok as a parent I will tell you why parents do this. Most the time the parent you first ask thinks it is not the best idea but can't think of anything a reason why or wants the other parents opinion before they give theirs. Or they see no problem in it but think the other parent might so they rather check with them.
So here is what you do. Wait till they are together. Ask them together. Say you don't have to tell me right now. But I want to let you know (give reason why you want to do it)
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· 6 years ago
Damn, Mrs collector here, outing the secrets of the trade!
Lmao hay not going to lie I wish someone told me this stuff when I was a kid. And honestly no parent will tell their OWN kid this stuff well except my kid I let her know this stuff. I even told her that some times when there is absolutely no reason to not be allowed to do something but the parents say you can't. Some times it is either to much for them to do or if it doesnt even affect them some times something in their parent mind is saying don't let them. Just like in a little kid mind they don't know why they did something that destroys something.
Wait but.... that sounds counterproductive. This seems to increase the odds that my parents will say no, as it guarantees that they have time to think stuff out and ask how they each feel about it, meaning that if any one of them is against it I will not be allowed to do so.
Whereas I can just ask one of them (the one I suspect the most to be ok with), and then go see the other and say 'Dad wants me to ask you if I can sleep over at Max's place tonight. He seems OK with it :) Can you drop me off" for a higher success chance.
Did I miss something ?
EDIT : No idea why I bothered with this, since Im living on my own, and Im nowhere near ready to have kids.
See the problem with that is if the one parent you say that to was going to say no you just either 1 got your parents to fight about allowing you to do something they wouldn't want you to do or 2 got yourself accused of lying to that parent once they find out the other news said you could or couldn't.
See if you let them talk about chances are higher in your favor fpr the parent who would let you to praise you and get the other parent to allow you to go. Which is better because when 2 parents agree you can do something not just one you will have more freedom. and next time you ask if you prove yourself worthy they may allow more things to happen.
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So here is what you do. Wait till they are together. Ask them together. Say you don't have to tell me right now. But I want to let you know (give reason why you want to do it)
Whereas I can just ask one of them (the one I suspect the most to be ok with), and then go see the other and say 'Dad wants me to ask you if I can sleep over at Max's place tonight. He seems OK with it :) Can you drop me off" for a higher success chance.
Did I miss something ?
EDIT : No idea why I bothered with this, since Im living on my own, and Im nowhere near ready to have kids.
See if you let them talk about chances are higher in your favor fpr the parent who would let you to praise you and get the other parent to allow you to go. Which is better because when 2 parents agree you can do something not just one you will have more freedom. and next time you ask if you prove yourself worthy they may allow more things to happen.
If my father says no, I'll just "I will be back."