That's fucked up, even if she just liked the name, that's fucked up. I get that you might think he'd never find out but it wouldn't be worth the trouble if he did. And he did.
To me, the problem isn't how she named their son (her son in the worst case) after her ex
But the fact that she refuses to talk about.
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It's your son and your relationship, if a problem comes up, you'll have to work TOGETHER to find a solution, that's how relationship works, you must compromise, you can't just refuse to talk about soemthing bc you're afraid things will go bad.
The moment you can't talk about it, it's already bad.
Can’t tell you how to feel. I can say you sound insecure, and it sounds like your wife doesn’t see a point in discussing it because she suspects she’ll have to tip toe around your sensitive feelings and either try to get the the whole truth or make some shit up and be delicate- and either way you’ll flip out at whatever she says. Your kid is named after some dude. That’s what it is. We can ask why and how and all that, but you’re here, he isn’t. Wether she wants him or not, you are there not him. If you were happy yesterday- you’re gonna leave her out of a fear she wants to or would leave you? How’s that make sense? If you weren’t happy yesterday- you still aren’t happy today and there’s more of an issue here than a name. I recommend therapy- individual or as a couple, but if you start asking for answers be prepared for ones you don’t like.
But the fact that she refuses to talk about.
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It's your son and your relationship, if a problem comes up, you'll have to work TOGETHER to find a solution, that's how relationship works, you must compromise, you can't just refuse to talk about soemthing bc you're afraid things will go bad.
The moment you can't talk about it, it's already bad.