This really isn't a good question to ask, and is a terrible way to ask it.
A better way to ask would be "Would you marry a woman who had been raped?"
Which is still a pretty shitty thing to ask.
That being said, I also think now is a good time to point out that people have baggage. And the person you marry should be someone whose baggage you can handle carrying, because sometimes they will have to lean on you. Sometimes you will need to lean on them. Ideally this is done in similar amounts.
And some people recover from being raped fairly well, but it takes a toll on everyone it happens to. I know that some people struggle with normal healthy sexual relations after the fact. Personally, I have been known to have panic attacks unexpectedly if my partner inadvertantly triggers something.
Not everyone can handle that kind of situation well. And not wanting to marry someone because their emotional baggage is too much for your wellbeing is okay.
I’ve dated a girl who was previously raped. It does make things very awkward some times when it came to sexual things. If you would brush her hair a certain way it could trigger flashback memories of the worst experience of her life, during what should be a living intimate moment.
The real question should be “are you strong enough to marry someone with trauma in their past?” Will you be good enough for her to understand that these feelings may come back at any time and have nothing to do with you?
Anyone who has experienced trauma will have small things that trigger memories, and it isn’t her fault or yours. The bigger risk is you being a childish ass and making her feel bad because of an emotional response she can’t control.
*I’m a male who has been mugged at gun point during a home invasion.
A better way to ask would be "Would you marry a woman who had been raped?"
Which is still a pretty shitty thing to ask.
That being said, I also think now is a good time to point out that people have baggage. And the person you marry should be someone whose baggage you can handle carrying, because sometimes they will have to lean on you. Sometimes you will need to lean on them. Ideally this is done in similar amounts.
And some people recover from being raped fairly well, but it takes a toll on everyone it happens to. I know that some people struggle with normal healthy sexual relations after the fact. Personally, I have been known to have panic attacks unexpectedly if my partner inadvertantly triggers something.
Not everyone can handle that kind of situation well. And not wanting to marry someone because their emotional baggage is too much for your wellbeing is okay.
The real question should be “are you strong enough to marry someone with trauma in their past?” Will you be good enough for her to understand that these feelings may come back at any time and have nothing to do with you?
Anyone who has experienced trauma will have small things that trigger memories, and it isn’t her fault or yours. The bigger risk is you being a childish ass and making her feel bad because of an emotional response she can’t control.
*I’m a male who has been mugged at gun point during a home invasion.