Be yourself but pls when youre alone

I think that’s a valid perception, and likely helpful to some folks too. I see it as: “Be (the best version of) yourself.” Which is to say- yes, be you. Like what you like, be talkative or reserved, silly or serious. If you are injured- be injured, but be working to heal. People respond to that- not all people but “good people” understand when someone is doing their best.

But “you” is a very fluid concept. We are all changing every day if we are trying to be better people or just better in life. But ultimately- being “you” doesn’t necessarily mean everyone is going to like “you.” It means that people who are compatible will like you. For people to like you- you have to have an identity or else what do they like? If we mold ourselves to what we know people want- it isn’t “us” they like unless what they like is a person who just tells you what you want to hear- they like the person they THINK we are.

2 very different things. Of course hardly anyone, maybe no one ever knows us completely to the core- but that’s splitting hairs. The point is- you have to be someone for anyone to like that person and not simply like the things that person does or the way they validate you. There is no certain way to be liked- but if we are being ourselves fully then we don’t really have to worry if some people don’t like us because that’s just physics.