Very likely a new girl, or in an odd personal space- unless she asked you to stop or tactfully indicated that she’d prefer your attention elsewhere and you didn’t listen. Strippers primary job duty is to fill a fantasy role- or more specifically the IDEA of a fantasy, but strippers are people too. Some, many, perhaps most- do not want a deeper connection with a client than at most, a fun and equally enjoyable time for all, or fair compensation for the services they agreed to provide. The Chef, the doctor, the masseuse, your personal trainer- most of them are there for a reason and it isn’t to make deep emotional bonds.
While often you CAN end up friends or ever romantic with these people- you generally have to at least bridge a gap between paying client and friend before you try to “connect” on a deeper level. It would certainly be bad manners to try and stare intently into the eyes of an actor or the chef at Benny Hana and try to “connect” right in the middle of them doing their job during a busy and profitable time.
Just like a fancy dinner party or job interview or a first time rock climbing or going to the shooting range- do yourself and everyone else a favor and try to learn the “rules” and etiquette before you jump in. If you want to pal up to a stripper- go to clubs when it is SLOW, like a weekday mid day or something like that. Remember they are working, and if you do chat them up- tip out as you go for their time. If they like you, they may offer time off the clock for money. If they REALLY like you- they MAY agree to see you for free. But also remember that most strippers aren’t too keen on dating clients, especially ones that show up during loser hours without friends like a serial killer. Also remember- having a pimp or being a lesbian are quite common in the industry- and many strippers do have boyfriends/girlfriends- and most have people who can easily be counted on for most of their “needs.”
Probably the “best” ways to connect with a stripper are to meet them out of the club- in the real world, not as a client- which takes either luck or a friend of a friend, or both; or work the club. Do security etc. still slim odds. Many clubs have rules against it and many people don’t date coworkers- but becoming friends is much easier as you see them regularly and not as a customer.
But my best advice is... just don’t try and date strippers or make friends with strippers or try to do anything but be pleasant, maybe talk, see tits, pay money. Dating a stripper can be awesome- but it’s not something to try and make happen. A stripper will meet young software million or billionaires, well off drug dealers and pimps slicker than you could probably ever be. They’ll meet older tycoons and CEO’s, cops, military, PMC, maybe actors or musicians, and yes- they’ll meet plenty of “average Joe good guys” too. The music is pumping and they have X hours to make the houses cut and their money- you’re helping or you aren’t.
Well... one last note I guess... if you’re a couple- and you regular a place and are cool- and you’re looking for a Unicorn or whatever else... you may have a chance there. But that isn’t dating or even necessarily connecting on an intimate level. Either way- don’t harass the dancers. They dance, you pay. That’s what the whole thing is advertised as and what you should expect to happen. Unless you want to pay them and they are willing- then you can do whatever the two of you agree to.
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