I've never understood why one would choose to be anything else but candid.
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He(?) never said he'd choose candor, as it seems he won't date german women, but rather italian women.
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Usually german candor is received as incredibly rude by most people, and I must say, they have a point. Only germans, swiss-german and dutch people have that sort of extreme candor, and in way too many cases, it's just a lame excuse for being utterly impolite and an unhinged lust for insulting people. "Why no, I'm not an inconsiderate asshole, it's candor, look it up, Untermensch!"
He replied with "candor" to the question "what do you love in german women" or am I missing something?
Also I think you're exaggerating a bit there. Most germans I know are just honest, but not rude. If you ask their honest opinion, they'll give it to ya, and honestly I prefer that to being told some good sounding white lies.
Edit: I've rephrased my former comment, maybe it was unclear
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Maybe it's because I have seen it from two different sides for a long time. Half my family is austrian and I have often seen them shocked by german candor which they perceived as rude and blunt. In my business career I have met so many people from all over the world who were really shocked about the perceived attitude of germans.
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Don't get me wrong here, I'm used to our mentality as well, and people tend to prefer what they are used to.So do I. I would always prefer candor over white lies, but passively more than actively. Most of our close friends are not german and we have learned from them that you can be quite open and honest and still come across way more respectful and pleasant than your average german. Being polite, respectful and considerate doesn't mean telljng white lies.
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Usually german candor is received as incredibly rude by most people, and I must say, they have a point. Only germans, swiss-german and dutch people have that sort of extreme candor, and in way too many cases, it's just a lame excuse for being utterly impolite and an unhinged lust for insulting people. "Why no, I'm not an inconsiderate asshole, it's candor, look it up, Untermensch!"
Also I think you're exaggerating a bit there. Most germans I know are just honest, but not rude. If you ask their honest opinion, they'll give it to ya, and honestly I prefer that to being told some good sounding white lies.
Edit: I've rephrased my former comment, maybe it was unclear
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Don't get me wrong here, I'm used to our mentality as well, and people tend to prefer what they are used to.So do I. I would always prefer candor over white lies, but passively more than actively. Most of our close friends are not german and we have learned from them that you can be quite open and honest and still come across way more respectful and pleasant than your average german. Being polite, respectful and considerate doesn't mean telljng white lies.