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catfluff
· 4 years ago
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The "Made with my wife's permission" made it
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guest
· 4 years ago
Gross and supports rape culture
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guest_
· 4 years ago
I get where you’re coming from guest, but I have to disagree. It’s philosophical a bit I guess- but some women do like rather rough play in the bedroom regularly, or as an occasional mood. So we could also see it supporting female empowerment- that women are much more (still not perfect) able to express their sexuality, explore it, have preferences and autonomy, and discuss it; and do so with (again still not perfect) far less judgment on their predilections- that our society as a whole is progressing and “kink shaming” is becoming socially unacceptable as consenting adults are accepted for the acts they choose to participate in or the acts they enjoy sexually.
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guest_
· 4 years ago
The partners of these women may sometimes be uncomfortable, especially if they are inexperienced in such play, or it may not be “their thing” but is something they do in service of their partners satisfaction- which again is very progressive as our society is finally (still far from perfect) putting an emphasis on satisfying female sexual needs and not just a strictly “male oriented” view of sex and fulfillment or even existence of sexual need (not so long ago- and in some less than “up to date” circles today- popular conception was that women simply weren’t capable of orgasm or even sexual enjoyment- or that it was shameful if a women enjoyed sex as more than an act in service to another!)
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guest_
· 4 years ago
So in that same vein- it isn’t uncommon to find men surprised, amazed, or sometimes even somewhat uncomfortable with the levels or intensity of roughness a female partners wants or is capable of enjoying in the bedroom. Men are finding out that women are quite a bit tougher than historically believed- in many ways including physical resiliency. Rough play is not for everyone, and everyone’s definition of rough is going to be different and it is important for partners to have boundaries and safeties, to respect each other.
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guest_
· 4 years ago
That said, personally while I do see your point that some people would see this and make some sort of “contest” about who’s partner could push those boundaries the furthest, and some percentage of men enjoy the act of hurting women for their own sake- I believe this is merely a humorous observation on how extreme women’s sexual desires can be- something I’ve personally experienced (not solely with toughness but with other areas as well), and how often times that can push things to a limit.
guest_
· 4 years ago
It does bring up some serious talking points, but while it is a “joke” the truth is that in many more developed relationships involving consensual dominance play, humiliation, subjugation, “S&M” or other types of physical denial or “torture play” there are lines between healthy and abusive, and those can sometimes be hard to understand if one has not taken the time to learn and gradually build a skill set and proper after care and other techniques to ensure everyone’s psychological and emotional health are safe.
guest_
· 4 years ago
There is a ton of reading one can do on the subject, lectures, seminars, and many clinical sex therapists and psychologists who offer their opinions, with a general consensus that it can be perfectly healthy and non exploitive to engage in such play or lifestyles- with a key component being informed consent and making sure that both partners are respected and have power. the “sub” in such relationships, where healthy, will have a large amount of control and will actually be the one “in charge” of a scenario or session, it is merely the fantasy or illusion of playing the part as opposed to actually giving up ones autonomy.
guest_
· 4 years ago
In closing, and Tl:dr if two adults are capable and emotionally healthy enough to consent to such acts and choose to do so, it is not supporting “rape culture” it is quite literally the opposite- a woman holding power and autonomy over her body. Telling a woman that she cannot enjoy the consensual sex of her choosing is supporting rape culture. It infantilizes a woman for another person to step in and say that she is incapable of making a decision herself, that her decisions for herself are wrong and misguided. Giving a woman choice, so long as she makes the choice you think is the right one, is not empowerment.
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lucky11
· 4 years ago
I'm not going to lie it took me about 10 seconds to figure out what I was looking at.
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