Yes and no.
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On the one hand the circumstances you grew up in definitely impact you and how you interact with the world.
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On the other hand, eventually you become responsible for who you are. Which is pretty devastating to most people, but that's the way it is.
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At that point you either work to be different and hopefully better, or you stay the same, and become the "villain" that crippled you growing up.
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Which by no means is to say it's *easy* to overcome that shit. It's not. It's a struggle and a test every day of your life. You have to find whatever you can to motivate you not to regress back to what your childhood told you was the way to survive.
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Eventually you either become your own solution, or remain someone else's problem
@xvarnah So true man..like yeah parents are responsible for some...but I've seen many just create problems that didn't exist and with time get hella irritated with their own self... irrespective of what other do or don't do to them
Most people who believe they are "shitty" parents believe that because they don't raise their children like their parents raised them.
Thats not typically a bad thing. I grew up in a broken home, no father figure and that caused me to step up when I had children. I didn't want to be a father but I knew what it felt like to be abandoned.
I'm sure you're not a shitty parent. Teach your children good values, how to love people, and encourage them to be helpful to their brothers and sisters (brothers and sisters of the world, that is). I'm not sure what you believe in but if you believe in God then you will recognize what I mean.
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On the one hand the circumstances you grew up in definitely impact you and how you interact with the world.
.
.
On the other hand, eventually you become responsible for who you are. Which is pretty devastating to most people, but that's the way it is.
.
At that point you either work to be different and hopefully better, or you stay the same, and become the "villain" that crippled you growing up.
.
Which by no means is to say it's *easy* to overcome that shit. It's not. It's a struggle and a test every day of your life. You have to find whatever you can to motivate you not to regress back to what your childhood told you was the way to survive.
.
Eventually you either become your own solution, or remain someone else's problem
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But the word moist rarely does
Thats not typically a bad thing. I grew up in a broken home, no father figure and that caused me to step up when I had children. I didn't want to be a father but I knew what it felt like to be abandoned.
I'm sure you're not a shitty parent. Teach your children good values, how to love people, and encourage them to be helpful to their brothers and sisters (brothers and sisters of the world, that is). I'm not sure what you believe in but if you believe in God then you will recognize what I mean.