I think there’s something to the sense of safety you give a baby when you snuggle them to sleep.
It can be hard to know if something you did caused the behavior or if that is just the person your kid is. We always snuggled my baby to sleep. We never let the baby “cry it out.” My baby also never needed a specific blanket/toy/pillow to go to sleep or comfort. Never used a pacifier. Didn’t have trouble sleeping in new places.
Maybe this is just the person that would have developed no matter what. And there are a lot of things I’m not confident I can take credit for, but I do think that by preventing the need for self-soothing every night while sleeping, my kid developed a sense of comfort and safety that evolved into some frustratingly fierce independence.
I wish I could like this twice. My baby is 8 months old and I have not and will not let her cry without comfort for any amount of time unless I really can't help it (e.g. on long car journeys when she gets fed up of being in her seat) She's currently still in my bed at night and nearly all her naps are on me. The amount of people who tell me I'm spoiling her or making a rod for my own back is ridiculous!
It can be hard to know if something you did caused the behavior or if that is just the person your kid is. We always snuggled my baby to sleep. We never let the baby “cry it out.” My baby also never needed a specific blanket/toy/pillow to go to sleep or comfort. Never used a pacifier. Didn’t have trouble sleeping in new places.
Maybe this is just the person that would have developed no matter what. And there are a lot of things I’m not confident I can take credit for, but I do think that by preventing the need for self-soothing every night while sleeping, my kid developed a sense of comfort and safety that evolved into some frustratingly fierce independence.