Yeah. If those are the factors someone took away from this I could see them having social issues because Farquad isn’t short- he’s small. He’s a small man and would be even if he was 7 feet tall and 250lbs of muscle because he’s a tiny spec of a person and his constant attempts to look big in his insecurity just bring more attention to his height and show how insecure he is.
Another major difference between them? Shrek is a jerk. He may be about as much of a jerk as the “average person,” but he’s a jerk. But the thing is… he isn’t trying to control everything and everyone. He doesn’t really care what you do so long ad he can live his life as he chooses. Contrast that to Farquad who tried to force his will on others and manipulate people. Who is not just a jerk- he is malicious and a bit sadistic. Shrek is an ogre but he’s a man. Farquad is a human but he is not a self realized man.
And this applies to all people but I will refer to men as this is who this meme is mostly about. You don’t need to be “prefect” to find relationships. If you did- 99.999% of people would die alone and the population would be much smaller. You can be a jerk, you can be a little rough. You can be not the most conventionally attractive person or be a bit of a home body or not be rich or not have glorious ambitions or be some moral paragon etc. Farquad COULD very likely find someone who would want to be with him, due to her personality, Fiona is not that somebody and due to his personality, anyone who Farquad would be with would need to be with him on HIS terms because he needs to feel control and constant validation. Anyone can be lived but some people make it much less likely to find the right person to love them and some people don’t want to date the sorts of people whom they tend to attract. That’s life.
A few things I've learnt over time and actively work on on a daily basis:
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Don't be deliberately and consciously malicious. Make an active effort to be kind.
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Admit mistakes and take responsibility when you are wrong, it's easy to try and avoid consequences.
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When debating with someone, seriously consider their viewpoint and reasoning behind it - if theirs is better, don't be afraid to change your viewpoint / combine them.
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Don't let people walk over you. Respect your own boundaries and others'. If unsure, err on the side of caution.
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Go to therapy, even if you don't necessarily *need* it. You'd be surprised how much it helps just talking out everyday worries and intrusive thoughts etc. to an unbiased, uninvolved party.
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Regularly do introspection (yes it sucks) and determine where you stand with yourself and others; decide if you are truly happy with yourself and your interactions with others.
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You don't need to suddenly change everything, do a bit better (1%) every day.
Finally, don't actively look for a partner. Embrace yourself as a whole independent person that you are truly happy with (for the most part).
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Confidence is attractive. And sometimes, you just need to say "fuck it" and try and be the best you - that's enough.
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Most of these things come with age and experience, but focusing on working on them makes you a more whole (and wholesome) person to be around.
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(also some days don't work out like that and that's ok)
Another major difference between them? Shrek is a jerk. He may be about as much of a jerk as the “average person,” but he’s a jerk. But the thing is… he isn’t trying to control everything and everyone. He doesn’t really care what you do so long ad he can live his life as he chooses. Contrast that to Farquad who tried to force his will on others and manipulate people. Who is not just a jerk- he is malicious and a bit sadistic. Shrek is an ogre but he’s a man. Farquad is a human but he is not a self realized man.
.
Don't be deliberately and consciously malicious. Make an active effort to be kind.
.
Admit mistakes and take responsibility when you are wrong, it's easy to try and avoid consequences.
.
When debating with someone, seriously consider their viewpoint and reasoning behind it - if theirs is better, don't be afraid to change your viewpoint / combine them.
.
Don't let people walk over you. Respect your own boundaries and others'. If unsure, err on the side of caution.
.
Go to therapy, even if you don't necessarily *need* it. You'd be surprised how much it helps just talking out everyday worries and intrusive thoughts etc. to an unbiased, uninvolved party.
.
Regularly do introspection (yes it sucks) and determine where you stand with yourself and others; decide if you are truly happy with yourself and your interactions with others.
.
You don't need to suddenly change everything, do a bit better (1%) every day.
.
Confidence is attractive. And sometimes, you just need to say "fuck it" and try and be the best you - that's enough.
.
Most of these things come with age and experience, but focusing on working on them makes you a more whole (and wholesome) person to be around.
.
(also some days don't work out like that and that's ok)