At 16, it should be evident to anyone not educated in Texas or Florida, that your very existence likely proves your parents have sex.
Your life is ruined by them having sex?
Your life wouldn’t exist if they didn’t most likely.
So I mean…. get over it.
Dumb as hell take mate. One thing for them to be screwing and another entirely for them to be posting things online. He could have school mates that had seen or fapped to said uploads which is nasty in its own right but now if he brings anyone over he risks someone recognizing them, spreading the info and ruining his school life.
Oh no. Someone might sexually fantasize about your family members. Because without porn, no one in the history of ever has fapped it to someone else’s mom, sister, dad, brother… oh nooo.
And then they might recognize their mom and dad, and then their friends might realize this persons mom and dad have sex, and then the great family secret- that their parents like sex- will be out, and then people might even think it’s genetic and maybe THEY like sex too, which as we all know, liking sex is just weird and something that shouldn’t be encouraged.
You’re welcome to your opinions, I’d appreciate if you didn’t call peoples opinions dumb simply because they contradict your own opinions or your insecurities and codependencies don’t allow you to live your life and allow others to live theirs without worrying about the largely frivolous opinions of others. Because that’s really what we are talking about here- what someone might think… of… your parents..? You? What exactly…? What are we worried about here? That by seeing your parents naked or having sex that…. What exactly?
Like someone is going to judge you on your dads dick game or something..?
I’m sorry, I don’t know what goes on in the minds of prudes, so I can’t really relate. Of the list of problems I have now or ever, of the problems in the world, someone seeing my mom fucking isn’t high in the list of practical concerns.
My mother, for my entire life was an adult, as is true of my father. They can have sex with any other adult. I’d wager at least 5 or ten if not more other humans have seen them naked and fucking. I don’t know all of them nor care to.
You must understand how, to a person without odd incestual or Freudian hang ups concerning their parents,
The idea of expending any degree of thought on one’s parents sex lives or who is involved or what people think of your parents sexually- is sort of creepy and gross. My care into such matters has never extended further than to hope they were having fun and safe sexual lives. I can’t say the idea of giving concern to who fucks my mom or dad or who watches ever entered my mind nor seems very healthy to me.
Have you considered that maybe people have different opinions on the level of exhibitionism their parents have? It’s definitely one thing to know your parents have sex and that other people also know due to having children or such, but being close to someone posting online… a lot of people are raised to consider porn impure or even immoral, and to have your parents, the people closest to you, do that…
Basically what I’m saying is respect other peoples opinions in turn.
You say “expanding any degree of thought into your parents sex lives is creepy and gross” well what if that was thrust upon you by the internet? And if people discover that and continually bring it up in your presence?
This is why they are uncomfortable. They can’t “just get over it”
Hi dragon baby. I HAVE considered other people have different opinions, I am a person who has a different opinion myself, I’m not the one who called anyone’s opinion “stupid as hell,” that was iondraco, who I then told the exact thing you said, people have different opinions.
You also quoted me out of context. I said the “IDEA of expending…” as implied in my view, to me. Not a judgment statement, a personal opinion statement.
I do admit the choice of words “get over it” is potentially triggering and insensitive. I’d written quite a bit already and honestly just didn’t feel like writing out an entire disclaimer on that particular line- but since it has come up….
People generally don’t do simply “just get over” most things, but ultimately, keeping things short and simple, you either “get over” things in some manner- work past them, develop coping strategies etc, or you are stuck in a place of discomfort and distress. When this occurs because of our inability to reconcile it inner thoughts with reality, we can change reality, or work on changing our perspective to align with reality. Changing our outlooks is not so simple, but it is something humans are capable of with work and support in general.
I would not want to see my parents having sex, but like many kids I have walked in on my parents in the nude or in some stage of sexual activity. It’s quite common that if we live with someone long enough that we will see then naked, and if they are sexually active, we may be exposed to that aspect of their being.
This is compounded with parents and children as in general children’s boundaries and respect of adult privacy can be weaker than that adults hold to each other, and the relationship between parent and child is such that there is generally an inherent compromise in privacy and autonomy to both parties.
So I admit my phrasing was insensitive, and I will apologize for that. I will not reverse my personal opinion on the matter of finding out one’s parents have sex, it is my personal opinion. It applies to me. I do not have the problem this person has. I do not have that problem and would not because I do not view the issue the same way they do.
Their view of the issue is causing them unhappiness. Can they change reality? Take back what they saw? Stop their parents from having sex? Arguably even trying to stop them from making more porn would be self centered in my view and a bit entitled. Regardless, even if one did stop them- that doesn’t change what was seen and likely wouldn’t remove it from the internet or existence no?
So they can’t change reality as pertains to their discomfort and distress, but they can most likely work to change their outlook.
If it is one’s outlook that is causing one distress, it does seem intuitively logical that while it isn’t an overnight process, changing one’s outlook is one prudent course of action, especially when one cannot change reality.
Human beings are just animals. Animals in general routinely reproduce even in front of their young. Many aspects of social and mental discomfort and issues that plague society and individuals can be traced to puritanical and repressive views on natural functions like sex.
We place sex on this odd pedestal and blow it up to the point that it becomes attached to all these odd emotions and eccentricities that generally aren’t observed in the animal kingdom or even amongst many human societies studied who developed outside major influence from various historical powers such as isolated tribes.
We do not realize how many of these hang ups and traumas are generated internally due to being raised in an environment where we are constantly told overtly and in subtext to feel these negative or repressive ways.
So I mean- everyone is entitled an opinion and wether or not it is factually supported or related to social conditioning or whatever else- our feelings are our feelings and we are allowed to feel as we feel. It is generally considered healthy that we process our feelings fully, which isn’t so simple as “just getting over it,” but I can save a few thousand words by just saying that eventually we can move past things if we put in the work and time to do so.
Which often involves changing our outlooks and internal monologues and can often involve freeing ourselves from limiting ideas society thrusts upon us or expectations we take for granted as “how things are” regardless of what those things do to our mental health.
Outside of conditions like depression, the most current research suggests that somewhere around half our general happiness may be genetic. The rest is mailable based on our thoughts and actions.
The most current research also suggests that outside of depression and such conditions that inhibit or prevent it- happiness is largely our own choice. That it is influenced by the external, but if our basic psychological needs are met that we basically choose wether to be happy or not, and we do in fact to some degree even choose wether our basic needs are being met. Given the same set of parameters, two people can be on opposite ends of a spectrum of happiness- some of this can be inherent differences in their needs,
but to some degree our needs are influenced by what we decide then to be and condition ourselves to need.
In the poorest village or darkest dungeon you can find a man that says life is good, and in the most luxurious mansions you can find those who are miserable. Do the wealthy and miserable really have base requirements for happiness beyond what all the wealth in the world can meet? Maybe. More likely though, again, outside of clinical conditions, they are making themselves unhappy through their inner views and thoughts.
They can seek happiness externally all they want and have the wealth to do so, and yet often don’t find anything more than momentary and fleeting superficial happiness.
If you can’t change reality, you have to change how you look at it. Easier said than done perhaps, but that is the long and short of it.
I honestly think you went on a tangent towards the end there. Bringing it back to the original post, this person is asking reddit how they should feel. They are confused and uncomfortable. I understand that we should accept what we cannot control, but acceptance is very difficult for most subjects and people. As you touched on, we are raised in an environment that puts natural things (nudity and sex) as something to hide. That is the society as a whole that we live in and it’s not going to change so easily. I myself find it easy to move on, but I know people who don’t. I appreciate the apology and clarification but it’s too little too late. I’m sure you weren’t out of energy at the first post.
Too late, the story of my life. Funny enough I did just sort of run out of steam and just sort of went for a quick wrap out without much thought, hence the poor word choice.
That said, I would point out that if one asks a public forum how they “should feel,” then how could it be wrong to tell them how you think they should feel?
That is distinctly different than asking for validation of one’s feelings- a bit like the difference between asking for opinions on a painting and asking what you should paint.
If you ask what you should paint and someone says that you should paint a Llama, are they somehow awful because most other people think you should paint a bowl of fruit? You asked an open question and can review the answers for the one you wish to choose or be inspired by, the opinions are there for you to review, you are not obligated to follow them or agree.
But again, the end wording was an unfortunate choice and too late or no, I am sorry if I offended you or anyone
Your life is ruined by them having sex?
Your life wouldn’t exist if they didn’t most likely.
So I mean…. get over it.
And then they might recognize their mom and dad, and then their friends might realize this persons mom and dad have sex, and then the great family secret- that their parents like sex- will be out, and then people might even think it’s genetic and maybe THEY like sex too, which as we all know, liking sex is just weird and something that shouldn’t be encouraged.
Like someone is going to judge you on your dads dick game or something..?
I’m sorry, I don’t know what goes on in the minds of prudes, so I can’t really relate. Of the list of problems I have now or ever, of the problems in the world, someone seeing my mom fucking isn’t high in the list of practical concerns.
You must understand how, to a person without odd incestual or Freudian hang ups concerning their parents,
The idea of expending any degree of thought on one’s parents sex lives or who is involved or what people think of your parents sexually- is sort of creepy and gross. My care into such matters has never extended further than to hope they were having fun and safe sexual lives. I can’t say the idea of giving concern to who fucks my mom or dad or who watches ever entered my mind nor seems very healthy to me.
Basically what I’m saying is respect other peoples opinions in turn.
You say “expanding any degree of thought into your parents sex lives is creepy and gross” well what if that was thrust upon you by the internet? And if people discover that and continually bring it up in your presence?
This is why they are uncomfortable. They can’t “just get over it”
You also quoted me out of context. I said the “IDEA of expending…” as implied in my view, to me. Not a judgment statement, a personal opinion statement.
I do admit the choice of words “get over it” is potentially triggering and insensitive. I’d written quite a bit already and honestly just didn’t feel like writing out an entire disclaimer on that particular line- but since it has come up….
This is compounded with parents and children as in general children’s boundaries and respect of adult privacy can be weaker than that adults hold to each other, and the relationship between parent and child is such that there is generally an inherent compromise in privacy and autonomy to both parties.
Their view of the issue is causing them unhappiness. Can they change reality? Take back what they saw? Stop their parents from having sex? Arguably even trying to stop them from making more porn would be self centered in my view and a bit entitled. Regardless, even if one did stop them- that doesn’t change what was seen and likely wouldn’t remove it from the internet or existence no?
If it is one’s outlook that is causing one distress, it does seem intuitively logical that while it isn’t an overnight process, changing one’s outlook is one prudent course of action, especially when one cannot change reality.
We place sex on this odd pedestal and blow it up to the point that it becomes attached to all these odd emotions and eccentricities that generally aren’t observed in the animal kingdom or even amongst many human societies studied who developed outside major influence from various historical powers such as isolated tribes.
We do not realize how many of these hang ups and traumas are generated internally due to being raised in an environment where we are constantly told overtly and in subtext to feel these negative or repressive ways.
Outside of conditions like depression, the most current research suggests that somewhere around half our general happiness may be genetic. The rest is mailable based on our thoughts and actions.
The most current research also suggests that outside of depression and such conditions that inhibit or prevent it- happiness is largely our own choice. That it is influenced by the external, but if our basic psychological needs are met that we basically choose wether to be happy or not, and we do in fact to some degree even choose wether our basic needs are being met. Given the same set of parameters, two people can be on opposite ends of a spectrum of happiness- some of this can be inherent differences in their needs,
In the poorest village or darkest dungeon you can find a man that says life is good, and in the most luxurious mansions you can find those who are miserable. Do the wealthy and miserable really have base requirements for happiness beyond what all the wealth in the world can meet? Maybe. More likely though, again, outside of clinical conditions, they are making themselves unhappy through their inner views and thoughts.
They can seek happiness externally all they want and have the wealth to do so, and yet often don’t find anything more than momentary and fleeting superficial happiness.
If you can’t change reality, you have to change how you look at it. Easier said than done perhaps, but that is the long and short of it.
That said, I would point out that if one asks a public forum how they “should feel,” then how could it be wrong to tell them how you think they should feel?
That is distinctly different than asking for validation of one’s feelings- a bit like the difference between asking for opinions on a painting and asking what you should paint.
If you ask what you should paint and someone says that you should paint a Llama, are they somehow awful because most other people think you should paint a bowl of fruit? You asked an open question and can review the answers for the one you wish to choose or be inspired by, the opinions are there for you to review, you are not obligated to follow them or agree.
But again, the end wording was an unfortunate choice and too late or no, I am sorry if I offended you or anyone