I just think a lot of them are afraid of what will happened to them. I mean, if they think something's bad enough that it needs to be stood up to, then I doubt they want it happening to themselves. You should still stand up against the oppressor, but fear does play a big part into why bystanders don't intervene.
All my school life I have always stood up for others. Even had huge fights because of others. Even when that one person I was defending turned around and joined the bullies. I still believe I did the right thing and I will carry on doing it. I was scared don't get me wrong, I still am. It's just not nice to see someone being bullied. If you think it's wrong, do something about. As a young adult, I am proud of my school years.
Strangely, for me, I'm always the person who stands up to the rude teachers. I mean, I see rude kids all the time, but it's mostly with friends (ironically). Or when they're gossiping, which I don't think is good or healthy, but they're just letting off steam. My school doesn't have many prominent bullies. Either that, or I am just not looking.
Understand what you're saying but the use of thr word Fag in your title may be seen as derogatory. (Unless you're a Brit and telling people not to be a cigarette. .then carry on sir)
Teach your kids to fight and tell em dont take shit from anyone. Theyll get into tons of fights during their school years but as they get older theyll mellow out and not fight as much. Or theyll get a "doesnt take shit" reputation in school and wont have to fight.
Its a win/win
I thank my extended family members all the time for being the ears and shoulders I needed to deal with the constant bullying I went through from elementary to high school. I could have been one of those kids that killed themselves or others and believe me, I thought about it everyday. It felt like it wasn't getting better with the way things were going at school and at home. But things did get better. A lot of these kids just need hope. With hope of things getting better I got through the hard times and eventually things did get better. Nothing hurts my heart more than to hear that someone who hasn't even seen the rest of their life decided to end their life early. Better parenting needs to be done, seriously.
The word "fag" itself is considered derogatory, unless you're talking about cigarettes. So, while being a homosexual isn't bad, referring to all homosexuals as "fags" isn't much better.
That doesn't mean we let kids think bullying is okay. And WTF IS WITH THE TITLE!? Seriously? That word is charged with hate. Using that word makes you a bigot and a bully!
Also, I'll wear pink shirts if I want to! I shouldn't go through life making sure I don't do anything that catches attention or seems different to anyone else!
FUCK THAT if you're being bullied, you ARE a victim. The reason there's a 'society of victims' is because people are letting their kids act like twats. I'm going to have to live the rest of my life terrified of what people think of me for being consistently bullied for a year and half, so don't fucking tell me to cope. I am coping. I'm fighting every single day. Tell those bastards that slaughtered me to get a conscience.
i know how you feel. i was bullied from k-8th by the same punk. but telling them to stop doesn't stop it. in my experience when the adults got involved it made it worse. you have to stand up for yourself and/or not give a shit what people think of you. i don't know how old you are but once you are an adult , if you don't stand up for yourself, you will get walked all over. i promise it will get better, beckabn! *tight hug*
be strong, babydoll! what goes around comes around. stay strong, do the right things, and don't worry what other people think. you will never please everybody. u will never like 100% of the people you meet and vice versa. like/love yourself!
i cried almost everyday after school. i never wanted to go to school. when i was a teen i cared so much what people thought of me that i was not myself at all (this is embarrassing but eff-it, i even pretended to have an accent that i didn't have to get attention)! now i'm an adult and i seriously don't give a shit what anyone thinks. seriously! i fart in front of whomever n laugh at myself even when no one thinks i am funny and i couldn't be happier this way. i actually think its thanks to this fuck-face that made my life a living hell for 8 years. so i have to actually thank the shit head. the time will come when u will feel the same way if you learn to react/deal/cope. HEY! you know where i'm at if you need a shoulder. [ok, thats all i will say...lol...rant over]
Well there's no way that anti bullying laws are bad. It's like racism in this country. There's a little chance we'll be completely rid of it but that doesn't mean it's not worth trying. That being said a combination of government and community involvement as well as parenting is needed.
Because of your casual use of hateful terms like fag, and your dislike of anti-bullying efforts, you seen like a bully that us just whining. A whiny bully.
I agree. Yeah, bullying is bad, I've had my share of it. That's why I just lie low. Just know your place, guys. It's really the only way to get it to stop.
the real world is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay different than high school. it actually can be way worse. you gotta get strong, girly! stand up for yourself or you're gonna get eaten alive. in high school its about your image. in the real world its about your livelihood.
Honestly dude! When I got into the professional working world I was sooooo shocked at how adults treating adults and also the 'students training at the time. I could not fathom how horrid certain people could be. There were times when I went home after work and sat there thinking is this really the world that is my oyster. Then logic came and said fuck it be who you always have been and others can do what they like but just not to me or others around me.
Its a win/win
implying being a fag is bad? Poor choice of words OP.. poor choice