You shouldn't wish to be someone you aren't. Believe me,I know how it feels to have friends who get all the guys. But,you'll find someone who will love you for you. It may take time,but it will be worth the wait.
I feel you. I have lots of male friends who fall for chicks that causally wear a layer of makeup and have to be reminded of everything at least three times before doing it, and even then they need to be guided. Meanwhile I've never had a boyfriend because apparently my lack of helplessness is a turnoff. I mean, I'm not even ugly, I'm average and I honestly think I'd be slightly above average if I got rid of acne.
I actually heard that guys don't like dating women that are more independent or intelligent than them because they feel intimidated. Maybe that's the reasone we're single.
The happiest woman I know is the most stereotypical blonde I have ever met. She is married with three kids and everyone likes her. She never went to university. She isn't stupid, but I would probably say oblivious. She is hardly ever unhappy. Plus she is very good looking; most things just fell into her lap throughout her life. Her life is simple. Then on the other hand, the cleverest guy I know is habitually depressed. It is as much a part of him as his arms and legs. He views the world exactly as it is, and this depresses him. The sheer futility of life seems insurmountable and suffocating to him. Currently he is studying for his PhD but not many things make him happy. I fully expect him to commit suicide one day. These sort of experiences have made me realise that ignorance and self-delusion are absolutely integral to a happy life. Ironically, knowing this fact puts you on the wrong side of the divide. Ignorance is bliss.
My friend is smart, but not too smart. She has a good life and her boyfriends always fall in love with her and won't leave her alone. They pursue her attention and buy her expensive stuff and take her out all the time. She acts like she doesn't like it and leaves them each time. It depresses me that my boyfriend won't even text me anymore. I have found that the best situation is to have no common sense, to be smart but not too smart, to be pretty but not too keen, to think but not too much.
Be careful what you wish for. Knowing the truth about life will not make you happy, and it can never be forgotten.
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· 10 years ago
I used to have a best friend like that. I asked one guy what was so special (he was my friend). He said it's easier to get in their pants. Maybe he was just a jerk.. but yea love yourself.
I actually heard that guys don't like dating women that are more independent or intelligent than them because they feel intimidated. Maybe that's the reasone we're single.