I had a very good friend who was in an abusive relationship everday it seemed the cops were called to the house but they always did nothing. Once they even called my friend a cry baby. Well after 2 YEARS he finally got away from her. He had to get a restraining order and even now after 6 years being away from her he still wakes up at night screaming for help. By the way did I mention he is no tiny weak guy. He is 6'2 and he is a fitness trainer. And the girl (bitch sorry I still hate her) was 5'4 and she can't go outside if the wind is blowing or the bitch will fly away.
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Awful people come in all shapes and sizes. I'm sorry that your friend was in that situation, and I'm very glad he got away.
It is because of him that I remind people that we need to find ways to help men in abusive relationships just as much. Most men are scared to admit they being abused due to it being considered being a whimp. The cop ACTUALLY told my friend " You need to man up and quit being such a cry baby. Did you suck on mom's tit to long or something? That is a little girl quit making her mad and just try to get along." The first time cops were called my friend was arrested cause they thought he hit her. Which was bull shit, he never hurt anyone in his whole life.
My friend dealt with something similar but his ex was 240 pounds he was 175 soaking wet, she abused both him and both the kids, nobody believed him until the fifth time he called 911 after she buried a pocket knife in his shoulder and broke the older boy's arm (he was trying to protect his step dad) he never once hit her but everytime the cops came they always threatened to arrest him!
Whats so sad is my friend is now scared of women. Any females he isn't related to or already knew before it happen. It is really bad if they are short, and if a female is angry, they don't even have to be angry at him. If he hears a female yelling he starts.to shake, he looks like he will start to cry. If he doesn't leave he will either pass out, wet him self, or curl into a ball and rock back and forth till calmed down. He is in therapy and it is helping but he still can't get comfortable enough to date. Which is sad because he is a.sweet kind guy and is good looking. If I wasn't married and didn't think of him as a brother, I would date him.
That's my friend too with larger red haired women, he developed bad anxiety from the whole mess, if he sees someone with a similar build or mannerisms he'll go out of his way to avoid them. He's sworn off relationships completely which is a shame because he's the kind of guy that would give his last dollar to help a stranger.
Same for my friend.What's even more sad is he so desperately wants to be a dad. He is in a local big brother program and he helps out in the boys and girls club. I told him he should adopt but he is holding on to the hope he will find someone. (Probably some one tall and has a soft voice. He likes this one vine girl which shoked us all. Cause she is tiny like his ex but she has a voice like a kid. He wants a girl like her but tall he says.) It just breaks my heart that men can't come out and say my gf/wife is adusive and beats me. The last time he was with her that bitch hit him with a bat. Broke the damn bat on his leg. He had a broken arm and a broken leg, his leg's damn bone was sticking out. He had 2 broken ribs a fractured skull and she PUT HIM IN A COMA! Than the bitch shows up with flowers saying she wanted to see him. His mom stright up punched her in the face and spit on her lol told her go to hell and when your there find yourself a lawyer. I never been more proud of Gladys.
Happened to one of my elder brother as well. It only worked with the police when I called them instead of my brother and show the shit that was going on. Even then, the police still sort of laughed at my brother.
My friend was lucky enough to get custody of his kid but the mother still gets visitation although supervised and only two hours a month my friend had the choice to supervise the visits himself of appoint somebody so he chose another member of his family he doesn't even want to be in the same state as her but can't get court permission to move without giving her unsupervised visits so he's stuck.
Yes...which is why it's important to get the message out that women are equal to men. They can abuse, they can sexually harrass, some can be very aggressive. But let's be honest here...a big part of men not getting the help they need, or not even asking for it, is because other men deride them as being weak when they do. As far as splitting a date being cheap, it's not. Nobody should ever go on a date without being ready and able to pay their own way. It's 2016, it doesn't hurt to pick up the whole tab now and again either, ladies.
I find it incredibly irritating when anyone in movies/tv shows/whatever talks about just going up to someone out of the blue and kissing them, as if it's okay just because they like them.
What a sad and bigoted individual you must be if you actually believe this.
Look, I'm all for equality and I acknowledge that things such as rape and domestic violence happening to men is just as serious an issue as when it happens to women, but this post is pure bullshit. Nobody sane would ever say a woman is brave for hitting a man, and things like suddenly kissing someone, accidentally walking into a bathroom or staring are not even real issues. As far as splitting the bill or doing some work is concerned, only the biggest bitches would expect a man to do it just because he's a man. I personally always pay for my own stuff and ask for help only when the work is really hard, such as carrying really heavy stuff, and en revanche I always help when I can.
I really don't know in what sort of bitchy environment you live that you have such a negative opinion about women, but I assure you, most women are the normal, non-psycho kind.
Ewqua, I'm 99.99% agree with you but sadly, that is not the case in my country (and some other asian countries). Which is awful really but that is the truth. It's definitely fine and even considered interesting if a bitch goes and hit his boyfriend in public. People will cheer on her and laugh at the man. Also exactly what happen with the bill, toilet, and work thing. Man just HAS to do all the extra hard work; the ladies will be yelling at the men and told them to do it while they are perfectly capable to do the job as well. But definitely agree with your last statement; never let a few rotten apples spoil the rest.
@guest I'm sorry that kind of stuff is happening in your country, then again there are countries in which women aren't allowed to go to school. Hopefully the world will balance these things out in time, and there will be equality everywhere.
It's extremely dangerous for both sides that women are viewed as the weak gender and men the though ones. Let's put rape as an example:
If a man is sexually harassed, chances are he will be laughed at or taken as a 'pussy'. Masculinity standards make men defendless and exposed and their voices aren't heard (because who wants to be called a faggot, eh?)
On the other hand, women are raped more often that men (because they may seem incapable of defending themselves).
Sometimes people even claim that victims were "asking for it" (aka with the clothes they were wearing, etc..). As if it was the victim's fault.
Does anyone really think we currently have gender equality?
I think it's terrible that men who are abused have to face ridicule. This idea stems from the perception that women are weak and can only be victims... Reaching gender equality will benefit both genders.
That's just how it is. Women are a lot more delicate than men. Women shouldn't have more rights than men, but it makes sense to treat them with more care
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On an evolutionary level, you're absolutely right. However some women work out and some men don't and so this isn't always the case.
Exactly. I think the point of this post is just that it's not okay to treat one gender as better than the other. Misogyny isn't cool, but neither is misandry.
Look, I'm all for equality and I acknowledge that things such as rape and domestic violence happening to men is just as serious an issue as when it happens to women, but this post is pure bullshit. Nobody sane would ever say a woman is brave for hitting a man, and things like suddenly kissing someone, accidentally walking into a bathroom or staring are not even real issues. As far as splitting the bill or doing some work is concerned, only the biggest bitches would expect a man to do it just because he's a man. I personally always pay for my own stuff and ask for help only when the work is really hard, such as carrying really heavy stuff, and en revanche I always help when I can.
I really don't know in what sort of bitchy environment you live that you have such a negative opinion about women, but I assure you, most women are the normal, non-psycho kind.
If a man is sexually harassed, chances are he will be laughed at or taken as a 'pussy'. Masculinity standards make men defendless and exposed and their voices aren't heard (because who wants to be called a faggot, eh?)
On the other hand, women are raped more often that men (because they may seem incapable of defending themselves).
Sometimes people even claim that victims were "asking for it" (aka with the clothes they were wearing, etc..). As if it was the victim's fault.
I think it's terrible that men who are abused have to face ridicule. This idea stems from the perception that women are weak and can only be victims... Reaching gender equality will benefit both genders.