Nah, I'm with the horse. IMO, 16/36 isn't very smart or ethical, but 18/38, or, even better, 20/40 is perfectly fine. So long as you're willing to wait for the younger to mature and it isn't just about sex, go for it. Life is for living.
Another stereotype. Your entire argument and logic is based off stereotypes. Being the oldest of all my siblings, working in daycare, and currently raising 2 daughters of my own, children are far more mature than you think. Perhaps if you took the time to listen for once..
Science [something something] shows that brains don't fully mature until ~24. Now I'm not saying we ban all drugs and relationships until 24, but it's not unreasonable to restrict activities until say...18? Like most of the Western world does?
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BTW you can marry and join the military (in the US) at 16 with parental permission. And declare yourself independent (obviously without permission).
I don't know why you keep downvoting me for saying so though. Like I said, I date guys MUCH older than me, but they're no deviant. They even said if I was even 3/4 years younger then they wouldn't go out with me. And the law in the UK says 16 so it's fine (I'm not saying I did when I was 16, but even if I did that isn't a problem)
I'm not, someone else is. I rarely touch the downvote button, probably less than once a month.
I don't care what you do. You can be the exception for all anyone cares. But using only a few examples isn't a good sample size. Like I said, we have to make laws that encompass as many as possible.
Oh I thought you were referencing our comment chain.
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In my nonscientific opinion, 15-17 is the gray zone for maturity. Some people get it faster, some people (like me) at 19 still really aren't mature.
Regarding the difference of age, the argument isn't the absolute difference but the relative fraction. For example, 16/36 is much smaller smaller than 50/70. What's the point of this analogy? I'm don't really know. I trust you're smart enough to find the way I'm trying to relate this to age.
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So what is this apathetic Asian trying to say?
Basically I'm trying to say nobody gives a fuck that you're more mature than usual or that you have older tastes. But science has it that we just don't develop [x] until [y]. And in light of that, we have social norms and laws to prevent people from doing stupid things until [y] because they think [x] but they don't truly understand the ramifications of it.
THIS IS THE CONSEQUENCE OF THE "NEVER JUDGE ANYONE" MENTALITY. If you used that to insist that people celebrate homosexuality and all the other things that you're OK with, you've also argued for pedophilia and incest, and necrophilia as well.
Not at all. You're simply assuming every living human being will take advantage of those younger. Therefore your argument is only valid for a very specific portion of people.
I don't care what the current law is. Society is fucked up as it is. If you need proof just look at how much support Trump is getting. I REALLY don't trust society or the government to make laws, because they're all idiots. I'm a self centered, narcissist, little bastard. So as that I honestly think age doesn't matter what so ever if you truly love the person.
It's more a matter of maturity for me. My favorite example is my Latin teacher and his wife. They met when she was his student in one of his first high school English classes, but because they were both smart about it, they wanted to wait. Ten years later, the Miss is an English teacher at the school where Mr now teaches Latin, and they were basically the entire school's OTP. They were absolutely ADORABLE together: kind, respectful, and the way they looked at each other when they thought no one was looking was the most cliche, heartwarming nonverbal profession of love I have ever seen. A few years ago, at the ages of 40 and 58 respectively, Miss and Mr said "fuck societal standards" and became Mrs and Mr Smith.
Maybe marriage and sex aren't appropriate for 16/36, but love has almost no age limit. True love is timeless.
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If the feeling is mutual, and they are both willing to wait until the younger one has matured and is sure before they do anything rash (ergo sex and/or marriage), then I think it would be okay, yes.
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Depends of the age of the "child" as guest put it, we are talking 16+ right? cus any younger is a little creepy.
I'm not sure if you understand this but I'm seeing it touched on in comments. I'm not saying that love can't happen at a young age. I'm saying that the love could be a crush or a fleeting attraction and the best way to protect everyone is to wait until you are mentally and emotionally (and hopefully physically) mature enough to deal with a relationship. And that is why we have a minimum age of consent.
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BTW you can marry and join the military (in the US) at 16 with parental permission. And declare yourself independent (obviously without permission).
I don't care what you do. You can be the exception for all anyone cares. But using only a few examples isn't a good sample size. Like I said, we have to make laws that encompass as many as possible.
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In my nonscientific opinion, 15-17 is the gray zone for maturity. Some people get it faster, some people (like me) at 19 still really aren't mature.
Regarding the difference of age, the argument isn't the absolute difference but the relative fraction. For example, 16/36 is much smaller smaller than 50/70. What's the point of this analogy? I'm don't really know. I trust you're smart enough to find the way I'm trying to relate this to age.
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So what is this apathetic Asian trying to say?
Basically I'm trying to say nobody gives a fuck that you're more mature than usual or that you have older tastes. But science has it that we just don't develop [x] until [y]. And in light of that, we have social norms and laws to prevent people from doing stupid things until [y] because they think [x] but they don't truly understand the ramifications of it.
Maybe marriage and sex aren't appropriate for 16/36, but love has almost no age limit. True love is timeless.
If the feeling is mutual, and they are both willing to wait until the younger one has matured and is sure before they do anything rash (ergo sex and/or marriage), then I think it would be okay, yes.