Not saying anything is sexist but that usually end up being the guy. Plus, saying that expecting the guy to pay is sexist doesn't make sense. It's just courtesy/tradition, why are people complaining about this?
If the girl just ignores you and acts rudely, is it ok to split the bill? She clearly does not respect you but you invited her. Hypothetical situation but I still want to know
I gotta say, I 100% agree with aeacus's original comment.
I've had the hypothetical situation happen a handful of times when I was in my early 20's, and even if my date acted rudely, I didn't let it influence how I behaved.
Also, if you have to ask someone if they'll sleep with you, the answer is no. If it's going to happen, both parties will know. Any discussion is essentially paperwork.
I would love for women to have the courtesy.... Of at least paying half the bill if they are not interested in the guy...
Women paying for a date is NEVER a bad thing...
In fact there is no man on this earth who would feel nothing BUT flattered
If a woman does this...
It would make us feel appreciated and also would make us feel we are not being taken advantage of..
Not true. In my personal experience, men tend to be offended when you reach for the bill. Maybe I just haven't found the right one, but I had one guy actually say, "wow, you really don't want to sleep with me"
I let my bf pay for me only for practical reasons, like when I don't have change and just have big bills on me. I do the same for him when he needs. Bam, equality.
LOL yeah :') we were friends for a long time before it so once we got together we didn't go on 'dates' because we'd already done all the meal, cinema etc together loads of times :)
Dunno. I upvote you to balance it because it seems weird to downvote a pretty much neutral comment. Also the whole "no first date" thing is how I roll too, me and my bf know each other since we were 12 (we're former classmates) and we were friends pretty much since we met. We almost grew up together, and decided to start dating. Since we know each other for so long, there's no need for going on dates. Honestly, first dates are good when you want to pursue a romantic relationship with someone you don't know for a very long time. You go on a date, you get to know each other and see if a relationship would be possible. But when you know each other for so long, it's useless.
Ah, I wasn't thinking that way.
I'm also super jealous. I had a "friend that's a girl" in 3-4th grade that I adored, but her family moved to Texas. Sometimes I can't help but think how different things might have been if they hadn't.
25yr old woman here, I always offer to split the bill right out. I've always felt once money gets involved, there is a tilt in the power balance of a relationship.
I always offer to split the bill, but I've had more than one man get offended when I offer. One even went as far as to go "sooo....no sex?" (No, no sex on the first date from me). I still do it but sometimes it feels like a balancing act and i never quite know how he's going to react.
The idea that a man pays, is perpetuated by gender stereotypes.
The Man provides sustenance, the woman provides procreation sexy time.
If you want to smash down these barriers.
Women need to pay for more stuff, and men need to be able to accept that a woman can.
My girlfriend and I always go halves on everything, so we're always putting out.
We both earn almost exactly the same (she earns ever so slightly more).
I've had the hypothetical situation happen a handful of times when I was in my early 20's, and even if my date acted rudely, I didn't let it influence how I behaved.
Also, if you have to ask someone if they'll sleep with you, the answer is no. If it's going to happen, both parties will know. Any discussion is essentially paperwork.
And sexist when a man asks to split the bill..
Women paying for a date is NEVER a bad thing...
In fact there is no man on this earth who would feel nothing BUT flattered
If a woman does this...
It would make us feel appreciated and also would make us feel we are not being taken advantage of..
A man would have simply offered to pay for the next one.
I just have to keep my thoughts on that freeing me up for someone who WILL appreciate me, someday.
Go gay
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*sly eyebrow raise*
Aww that's sweet :) yeah exactly, it would seem weird having a formal date :'D
I'm also super jealous. I had a "friend that's a girl" in 3-4th grade that I adored, but her family moved to Texas. Sometimes I can't help but think how different things might have been if they hadn't.
Judging from multiple comments here, it's useful for weeding out the douchebags.
What really matters is being decent to each other. Something even I forgot at times.
The Man provides sustenance, the woman provides procreation sexy time.
If you want to smash down these barriers.
Women need to pay for more stuff, and men need to be able to accept that a woman can.
My girlfriend and I always go halves on everything, so we're always putting out.
We both earn almost exactly the same (she earns ever so slightly more).