Wife decided at the end of the year that she was a he. Now he wants nothing to do with making a family and is focusing all transitioning. So I spent the past 5 years of life on a lie.
You are both correct
I shouldn't have a say in what he wants to do with his body, but by being married to someone, their desires and goals should be considered. You lose a bit of your say in things when you agree to spend the rest of your life with someone. Still I am now free to go find a gf and have kids with her if I want..so yay?
I think the person you decide to spend the rest of your life with should become your best friend, a relationship that strong is a mixture of more things then just romantic.
My two best friends (they are both girls so one of them played the husband) got married at recess in school when we were like ten. I play the daughter who is "adopted". And they are still married after 7 seven years and they buy gifts for each other on their anniversary.
I shouldn't have a say in what he wants to do with his body, but by being married to someone, their desires and goals should be considered. You lose a bit of your say in things when you agree to spend the rest of your life with someone. Still I am now free to go find a gf and have kids with her if I want..so yay?
What if that's what people think about me
Often by guys trying to get out of the friend zone.