Problem is there is a small difference between her dating a guy just to get free food and someone running out on someone and leaving them the check.
And when it comes to who pays for a date I believe who ever asked should pay. So if the girl askes the guy she pays and if the guy asked the girl he pays.
Because if you dont plan to pay than don't ask. Or make a cheap date. If a guy took me to his house for pizza and a rented movie it be just as romatic as a fancy restraunt and a movie.
She most likely tried to give him a good time acted nice tried to be friendly. And just because she set her mind before hand she didnt like him doesnt mean after one date she would of changed her mind.
And the point is if someone tells someone they want to take them to eat on a date and they decided to go even though they dont like them is diffrent than someone taking someone on a date and than run off in the middle of the date. That is rude. Be a man and say listen how about we go dutch or say I know I asked but can you pay this time. I would GLADLY PAY if a guy did that. But no he chicken shit ran away.
@mrscollector I see why you would say that whoever invites pays for the other. but instead or that, how about we just do not assume one or the other is paying the full tab, and directly speak about it when the time arises to pay the bill. I just think it'd be simpler and straight forward to communicate than to assume
So you think it is fine to go to someone ask them if they want to go on a date than take them to a place to eat and eat all your food than go ok can you pay for this or should I?
When I went on dates where I was asked out I would look at what they order to know my price range. So if they order something like 5 dollars I order 5 bucks or less. Never more than what they got. Unless they say order what ever you want but even than I stay low. But after ordering and eating to be asked can you pay for this is yes rude but me personally I would pay for it because they asked. But THAT GUY RAN AWAY!!
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I stand by my belief if you ask you pay. If I walked up to a guy and said hay you do you want to go out on a date?
I WOULD PAY!
I would not assume he pays. And when the bill comes and he insist he pays I would tell the guy NO I asked I pay. But if you want to pay you can pay attion to me. lol
now you're putting words into my mouth that I never said. for the first part of your response you're saying that I'd invite someone, eat food, and then ask them to pay.
what I was trying to get at and I apologize if your reading comprehension skills aren't too well, I was trying to say that instead of assuming whether one or the other is going to pay, you simply do the following:
"hey let's go eat" - this statement is an invitation, but does not mean hey I'll pay the bill, it's simply what it states: an invitation.
now with that being cleared up, that's where its easier for both parties to discuss it when the bill comes.
the main issue and the reason why you think my way is wrong is because you have the notion that someone inviting you to something that they're the one who is going to pay, when in reality it's just an invitation.
with your logic if I invite a friend to go with me to las vegas then I'd be paying for everything since I "invited" them.
If you mean as friends that is a totally different story as someone dating
FOR DATING YOU INVITE YOU PAY.
BUT AS FRIENDS YOU PAY FOR YOUR OWN FOOD.
Unless they say hay I will pay or you say hay I am buying.
Other than that as a friend buy your own food.
And if yoyr friend paid last time for you pay them back by taking them out. But dont show them up and take them somewhere better than where they took you. And dont go somewhere worse
I don't condone dine and ditch, but take note of the operative words and phrases in the first tweet:
"I've used guys..."
"Didn't want them..."
Never mind the racial slur. Some POC may be ok with its use, some are not... some take great offense to its use, even by "their own." Imo, she reaped the karma she sowed.
If you're off that badly, ask for help. There is help to be had. Too proud you may say? Not too proud to not use people and not use racial slurs.
And when it comes to who pays for a date I believe who ever asked should pay. So if the girl askes the guy she pays and if the guy asked the girl he pays.
Because if you dont plan to pay than don't ask. Or make a cheap date. If a guy took me to his house for pizza and a rented movie it be just as romatic as a fancy restraunt and a movie.
And the point is if someone tells someone they want to take them to eat on a date and they decided to go even though they dont like them is diffrent than someone taking someone on a date and than run off in the middle of the date. That is rude. Be a man and say listen how about we go dutch or say I know I asked but can you pay this time. I would GLADLY PAY if a guy did that. But no he chicken shit ran away.
When I went on dates where I was asked out I would look at what they order to know my price range. So if they order something like 5 dollars I order 5 bucks or less. Never more than what they got. Unless they say order what ever you want but even than I stay low. But after ordering and eating to be asked can you pay for this is yes rude but me personally I would pay for it because they asked. But THAT GUY RAN AWAY!!
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I stand by my belief if you ask you pay. If I walked up to a guy and said hay you do you want to go out on a date?
I WOULD PAY!
I would not assume he pays. And when the bill comes and he insist he pays I would tell the guy NO I asked I pay. But if you want to pay you can pay attion to me. lol
what I was trying to get at and I apologize if your reading comprehension skills aren't too well, I was trying to say that instead of assuming whether one or the other is going to pay, you simply do the following:
"hey let's go eat" - this statement is an invitation, but does not mean hey I'll pay the bill, it's simply what it states: an invitation.
now with that being cleared up, that's where its easier for both parties to discuss it when the bill comes.
the main issue and the reason why you think my way is wrong is because you have the notion that someone inviting you to something that they're the one who is going to pay, when in reality it's just an invitation.
with your logic if I invite a friend to go with me to las vegas then I'd be paying for everything since I "invited" them.
FOR DATING YOU INVITE YOU PAY.
BUT AS FRIENDS YOU PAY FOR YOUR OWN FOOD.
Unless they say hay I will pay or you say hay I am buying.
Other than that as a friend buy your own food.
And if yoyr friend paid last time for you pay them back by taking them out. But dont show them up and take them somewhere better than where they took you. And dont go somewhere worse
"I've used guys..."
"Didn't want them..."
Never mind the racial slur. Some POC may be ok with its use, some are not... some take great offense to its use, even by "their own." Imo, she reaped the karma she sowed.
If you're off that badly, ask for help. There is help to be had. Too proud you may say? Not too proud to not use people and not use racial slurs.