You’d be surprised, there’s a surprisingly high amount of people. I had a person I thought was a friend do something similar (not as awful a situation thankgod).
A bunch of us went camping one weekend, hiking one day and I fell over twisted my ankle and ‘friend’ offered to help me walk back to camp. We get back there and he immediately starts trying to kiss me/undress himself thinking that I had done all this (including purposely injuring myself?!) because I wanted to be alone with him
Ohk. I don't think it's relatable or perhaps it is, anyway, here it goes.
So, I have a female friend whom a guy proposed to, a few months back and at that time she was busy with other things and she didn't felt anything for him so she outright told him that(she is a straightforward and honest person) I guess that guy's ego took a hit. A few days back, my friend thought that she perhaps made a mistake and that, he was a great guy. So she talked to him about that. That. GUY. Not only did He refused to have any feelings for her but he also refused to to even acknowledge her. And why you ask? JUST. TO. SPITE. HER. Because she rejected him earlier.
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The most surprising thing is that, if you look at that guy, you will see that he is just like any other normal guy. He is funny, good to talk to, etc. These kind of people hide in plain sight. You never see them coming. Until they do.
Too bad his feelings were hurt. Not her fault, really. He just needs to grow a little bit. Most likely he will regret acting that way. Sometimes negative emotions cause us to miss opportunities.
I know someone will down vote me for this but you need to think from his point of view. He put his self out there and told his gf he loved her so much he wanted to spend the rest of his life with her. And instead of her saying yes she turned him down and obviously broke off dating. I mean saying you don't want to marry is one thing but to also break up is hard to bare. But than out of the blue she just says I change my mind I will take you back. It is kind of a kick to the teeth.
If I was the guy I would of acted the same way and just ignore her and move on.
And to be calling the guy out for it is wrong. It was really the girl who messed up.
Just imagine if a woman took his part. She put her heart out there and asked her bf to marry her and he says no and he don't love her. But a few days later he calls her and says I thought it over and changed my mind. EVERYONE WOULD BE SAYING GIRL YOU DONT NEED HIM!
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Still... not as bad as that vid where the guy is proposing and she's telling him to stop and she steals the ukulele from the mariachi band and hits him with it.
@peachypersimmon do we need a chat? lol a lot of your comments lately are you saying punch people or slap them lol are you ok?
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I'm fine lol (quite a bit of personal stuff going on but I'm dealing with it) it's just I saw this vid come up in one of those tv shows that shows recorded funny things and what Spooky said reminded me of it.
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@mrscollector I agree with what you say. But you should have seen him. He was a really huge dick about it and he did in the classroom in front of everyone. While she declined him politely and in personal space.
Ok lol @peachypersimmon just making sure lol
And @spookykink57 I can understand stand it was probably embarrassing for her for him to act that way. But really she should just move on. He obviously is to hurt to want to pick back up the relationship and she should just chalk this up as experience for the next time someone ask her. Maybe next time if this should happen again she tells the person not no but can I have a few days to think about it. And explain it is not a yes but it is not a no.
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Well. I find that plain bullshit. People need to handle their rejections. She is doing really well after this whole fiasco, but I am still really mad at the guy. He once had some feelings for her. He rejected her, just to get back at her. How can someone do such thing? It was a pure asshole of a move and I would not change my perspective regarding it.
She declined him politely, she tried her best not to hurt him. She has a job, she was really busy with her job and some of her family problems. She didn't had time to have more load on her mind. So she declined. But that fucking guy, he just had to bring his ego into this.
@spookykink57 were they actually dating before the proposal? If so, for how long? Had they even discussed marriage? I think @mrscollector is thinking of this from a western view, and you are from India, right?
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That doesn't mean that we don't date here. It's a college romance dude. The proposal was not of marriage. They dated for like 2 weeks, went on only 2 dates.
Sorry for coming off that way, @spookykink57. I didn't mean it that way at all. Sorry for not wording it properly. I know that you do date there, but I also know that sometimes (and I do mean sometimes, not mostly or all the time) there are cases when a marriage is simply proposed without dating. What you just explained above, that they only went on two dates, is more along the lines of what I was thinking, and I am certain is vastly opposed to what @mrscollector was thinking. I think she was thinking that they were a long-term couple. She used the term girlfriend (which is usually not used quite this early in a relationship), and was discussing things as though they had been together much longer and that the breakup must have been very difficult. Understanding that they only went on two dates before he proposed... whatever he proposed (I'm sorry, I don't follow what he proposed if it wasn't marriage) would probably change @mrscollector's feelings on this, and get her on your side.
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It's cool mate. And the proposal was in the sense that, he said that, he loves her and he was going too fast, even for us Indians. That was pretty soon. So.
That's watered down. It used to be guys who were well-intentioned but clueless, then it used to include an element of deception or misrepresentation, off the top of my head. It's broadened over time.
I see what you mean. Still, seeing as Nice Guys often say that "girls go for assholes" and then proceed to call some totally random dude who is dating their crush an asshole/douchebag/chav, I think it's not necessarily a bad thing to remind them that expecting a person to sleep with them just for being nice makes them the selfish asshole.
Yeah, I don't like that either. How did that phrase in The Incredibles go? "If everyone is special, no one is", I think? Similarly, if everyone is a Nazi/SJW/racist/libtard/[insert random buzzword], no one is.
A bunch of us went camping one weekend, hiking one day and I fell over twisted my ankle and ‘friend’ offered to help me walk back to camp. We get back there and he immediately starts trying to kiss me/undress himself thinking that I had done all this (including purposely injuring myself?!) because I wanted to be alone with him
So, I have a female friend whom a guy proposed to, a few months back and at that time she was busy with other things and she didn't felt anything for him so she outright told him that(she is a straightforward and honest person) I guess that guy's ego took a hit. A few days back, my friend thought that she perhaps made a mistake and that, he was a great guy. So she talked to him about that. That. GUY. Not only did He refused to have any feelings for her but he also refused to to even acknowledge her. And why you ask? JUST. TO. SPITE. HER. Because she rejected him earlier.
Edit: A spelling mistake.
If I was the guy I would of acted the same way and just ignore her and move on.
And to be calling the guy out for it is wrong. It was really the girl who messed up.
Just imagine if a woman took his part. She put her heart out there and asked her bf to marry her and he says no and he don't love her. But a few days later he calls her and says I thought it over and changed my mind. EVERYONE WOULD BE SAYING GIRL YOU DONT NEED HIM!
And @spookykink57 I can understand stand it was probably embarrassing for her for him to act that way. But really she should just move on. He obviously is to hurt to want to pick back up the relationship and she should just chalk this up as experience for the next time someone ask her. Maybe next time if this should happen again she tells the person not no but can I have a few days to think about it. And explain it is not a yes but it is not a no.
She declined him politely, she tried her best not to hurt him. She has a job, she was really busy with her job and some of her family problems. She didn't had time to have more load on her mind. So she declined. But that fucking guy, he just had to bring his ego into this.